A Woman, a wife, a mom

College Softball Begins

2012-01-29T18:07:00.000-05:00

Yesterday was the start of our daughter Adrienne's first Spring Softball season with Seminole State College. We are so very proud of her. Adrienne is in the middle row, 3rd from the right.

It was the Preseason Classic yesterday, many Florida state and community colleges, a few from Georgia and farther north came together in Clearwater FL this weekend and played tons of great softball. Adrienne's school won 3 out of their 4 games, and only lost 2-1. It was a good test of the teams. While they all played fall ball, Spring is when they really compete and where teams move on to state and national competition.

Adrienne laid down this awesome sacrifice bunt to advance a runner....great job!

This is her official picture, isn't it a great one!?
Yesterday was long, but good fun. We are looking forward to seeing as many games as we can this year.

Book Review: Before I Go to Sleep by S.J. Watson

2012-01-26T00:01:00.003-05:00

Each day Christine wakes, and doesn't know where she is, or who she is sleeping next to. She typically goes to the bathroom, where the mirror is loaded with pictures of her, a much older her than she remembers, and a man, the man she was lying next to.

This is what we first learn about Christine Lucas, her husband Ben carefully and thoughtfully re-tells her daily that they have been married for twenty-two years. That she was in a terrible accident and suffered a brain injury, and now she wakes each day with no memory, unable to create new memories and unsure of who she can trust.

Christine also has a Dr, Dr. Nash calls her on the phone, and explains to her that he is helping her, he arranges to meet with her and pick her up. She is curious as to why she is seeing a Dr without her husband's support. Why would he

During the two week odyssey of this book Christine is asked to start keeping a journal of her thoughts by Dr. Nash. Daily she furiously writes everything she can as she learns of her life. Small visions and memories do pop up, and she writes them down. During her phone call daily with Dr. Nash, he tells her to read her journal, and then she wonders each day why Ben doesn't tell her everything about her past life, about their life together. She questions why a once dear friend no longer contacts her. Christine questions so much.

I had wanted to read this book since I read it's premise and saw the cover. When I recently was invited to join a book club with Sandy and Heather, two wonderful local book bloggers, I was elated, and even more so when I learned this book was on tap for January.

The book began well, Watson keeps the reader guessing as to what will come next, what will Christine learn and why does it appear Ben, her husband is keeping something from her, is it really for her own good? Unfortunately the daily repetition was just that, repetitive, dull, slow to progress. There were times I wanted to scream at Christine to demand more!!! When things do start to move, the pace picks up, the story is even more twisted than I imagined, but then...sadly things are wrapped up a bit too neatly, and life is seldom that perfect.

I think the premise of amnesia has been done a bit too often recently, and while I did enjoy this book, it is not my favorite, and from what others have told me there may be other books that have a better twist.

I rated this book a 3 out of 5 stars, I liked it. I just learned that it is coming out in paperback on February 7, so if you're interested it will cost you a bit less.

The copy I read was my own, purchased for my Nook.

Book Review: The Baker's Daughter by Sarah McCoy

2012-01-24T04:00:00.001-05:00

Elsie Schmidt is 16 years old and the youngest daughter of a baker in Garmisch Germany. The year is 1944 and the Third Reich and Hitler rule Germany. While war is everywhere Elsie and her family are kept safe by an older well connected soldier who has feelings for Elsie. Her older sister,Hazel, was engaged to another soldier and has a son from that relationship. She now lives and has children in the Lebensborn program, imagine a sanctioned place for sex to create a perfect Aryan nation, she has also had twins.
One Christmas Eve changes everything for Elsie. She went to the first adult party and dance of her life, and while she should have been enjoying her new dress and date, the evening was marred by the actions of a brutal Nazi officer. Elsie returned home very shaken up that night, an engagement ring on her finger, and she discovered a shocking surprise behind her home..........
In El Paso TX Reba Adams is a journalist searching a unique twist on a Christmas feature she's writing. The year is 2007. Her search for traditions around the world lead her to Elsie's German Bakery. Reba feels her own life is upside down. She's engaged to Riki, a border patrol officer, she's running from her own family past, and she's certain El Paso is not where she wants to settle. Reba finds much more than her story when she meets Elsie and her daughter Jane.

This book is really the story of Elsie and Reba, two young women, separated by 63 years, but facing similar life altering choices in their lives. I fell in love with Elsie immediately, her heart so pure, so honest and always thinking of her family and how each move she makes will impact them. She grows up so quickly, because of the war, because of her situation, and her childhood is over. She adores her parents, and she keeps their traditions and the art of baking close to her.
Loving Reba was only a little harder. Her young life wasn't easy, and she didn't have that strong family support system to lift her up. I think I wanted her to question her life with Riki less, but of course Sarah McCoy knows how to weave this story, and I should never have doubted her.

Trying to give a synopsis of this book is not easy, and yet I want to put it into my own words. Simply put this book is beautiful and heart breaking. The back and forth in the story is done so very well. I was excited to read each story, anxious to see how they would progress, and eventually intertwine. The historical research is accurate and so strikingly frightening.

I "met" Sarah McCoy on twitter, chatting with other authors. I instantly wanted to get to know her better. I purchased her first book, The Time It Snowed In Puerto Rico, and loved it. We continued to chat and our friendship has just grown. I must say this second novel far exceeded my expectations, I won't soon forget these characters and their story.
I've given this book 4.5 out of 5 stars, and if you love history, love stories, or a story of love over hate, this book will stir in your heart for a long time. Today is the launch day for this book, and it's available everywhere, and in ebook too. Please visit Sarah McCoy's website, you can also find her on facebook and on twitter at @SarahMMcCoy
I was able to read an ARC e-galley via Edelweiss, thank you so much Crown for this opportunity.

Book Review: The World We Found by Thrity Umrigar

2012-01-17T04:00:00.002-05:00

In 1970's Bombay India four young women become friends. Armaiti, Leleh, Kavita and Nishta are like many of us were, young, fearless and planning to change the world. As they all leave the university Armaiti chooses to go to American for grad school, and Nishta goes against her families wishes and marries a Muslim man, a man she is deeply in love with, she is disowned by her parents after this choice. Leleh married Adish, and they live comfortably with two children. Kavita has become an architect, and she has kept one big secret from her family for her whole life. The World We Found, is about these women 30 years later, and where they are, and how they've lost touch with each other and their lives have taken them in so many places. The book moves between today, and strategic moments in their past. Sadly when Armaiti is diagnosed with cancer, her one desire is to have her three friends visit her, but that journey is about much more than a flight from India to America.

The women and their spouses have different cultural and religious views, and it's interesting how much I learned in this book. I felt the tug of those differences and yet saw how they worked to overcome them to still love one another. Nishta is living in such a starkly different world with her husband Iqbal, a devout Muslim. Her friends fear she has lost all hope and spark in her life when they find her, it breaks my heart.

This is the first book I've read by Thrity Umrigar, what was I waiting for? The geography of this book is important, but in relation to how friendships are made and kept it's universal. I loved how this story went back and forth between where the women are now, and their memories and emotions of their youth. I remember my own years of college, and those friendships that I thought would always be with me. Sadly most of those friends are long out of contact.

I don't feel I'm writing this review with enough passion or insight to truly express how much I loved it. I have given this a 4.5 out of 5 stars. My heart was racing as I finished the book, and I couldn't put it down. I was able to obtain an Advanced Reader copy from B&N where I happily work as a part time bookseller. Thank you Harper Collins for giving us that opportunity. I hope you will read it and share your thoughts.

I'm also excited that I won four more books by Umrigar,on Swapna's blog, S.Krishna's Books. She is also hosting a discussion of The World We Found, stop by and join in. These new books will be a highlight of my reading this year, I have no doubt.

The Weekend

2012-01-16T17:17:00.000-05:00

Happy Monday, sorry it's late afternoon, but joyously I slept in and then had a lazy morning reading emails and blogs and book reviews and little else.

I spent the weekend in the Dallas area visiting with my parents. My dad had a stroke and took a fall just before Christmas and he spent a week in the hospital and is now in a rehab/nursing care center. My dad is 87 this Wednesday, and his health in general is not great. I flew in early Friday morning, rented a car and headed to my parents retirement complex. They have a lovely apartment, it's part of an active retirement community and my mom has received so much support this past year. She lost two of her sisters and my own sister in 2011. This is my dad's second fall/rehab in 3 years and without the new friends she has made, I'm not sure she would be in the positive mental state she is.
We visited Dad right after lunch, and I was thrilled to find him in good spirits. He is still mostly in a wheel chair, but his PT is going well. He has used a walker for years, and he is building back up in his ability to walk farther.
Saturday their area of the complex celebrated 10 years, with a lovely reception. I have a picture of my parents.

They are precious, they have been married 67 years and 2 months...just amazing.
So I spent my time eating out with my mom and sister, visiting with my parents and relaxing. I finished a book, slept oh so well and enjoyed my weekend.
My dad's team had a meeting with my family last week, and if he continues to work hard and hits the goals set for walking, personal care etc they estimate he will be able to go home in about 5 weeks. The best part of that?? It will be February 18, and I will be visiting them once again.
Today was a relaxing day, and it's always good to be home. Tomorrow begins another week of school, work, errands and stuff. I hope yours is good!!

Book Review: The Night Strangers by Chris Bohjalian

2012-01-12T04:00:00.002-05:00

Chip Linton is a pilot flying smaller regional jets. In a typical flight one summer day his plane flies into a flock of geese, and he attempts to land the plane on water, similar to the infamous Sully Sullenberger. Unfortunately this attempt is not successful and 39 passengers and crew members die in the water landing.
Chip and his wife Emily attempt to rebuild their life by moving to northern New Hampshire, they purchase a huge old home, complete with a green house. They move in with their ten year old twin daughters. In the mostly dirt floor basement Chip finds a bolted door, a door that appears to lead to nowhere, but it is bolted shut with 39 carriage bolts. Why so much overkill on securing this door, and is it just coincidence that the number 39 appears again?
The community is warm and welcoming to the Linton's, almost too much so. Everywhere they go people are very interested in their twin daughters Garnette and Hailey. Emily takes a position in a much smaller law firm that is local and Chip is home, suffering with the memories of his flight and experiencing Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. He tries to spend his time renovating and redecorating their home, but first he must open that mysterious door. What he finds is more than horrific. Some people in the community are worried about the "herbalists" and Emily and Chip begin to have their own doubts too.

I loved the prologue to this book, it drew me in, had me begging for more. The reader learns early that the book is not just about Chip and his PTSD, or a spooky old mansion, but about an odd quirky community, and yet I imagine most readers will keep reading, as it's just not something one can put their finger on. I began reading this book, but it seemed to be moving a bit slow to me, so I borrowed the audio from my library, and I really enjoyed the two voices of the audio, they were very well done, but I didn't make note of the narrators names.
Bohjalian does an expert job of creating that creepy feeling in the house, with their neighbors and of the basement. I don't think I'd go down there if I lived in such a house. His characters are precise and yet I was so surprised by the end of this book, I hadn't predicted it at all. I love how the words caused me to look up exactly what a tincture is, and I'll never think of it the same again.

I gave this book 4 out of 5 stars, I really liked it. I think it makes for a disturbing yet entertaining read or listen.

Wordless Wednesday, The Florida Keys

2012-01-11T08:10:00.000-05:00

Book Review: The Scrapbook of Frankie Pratt: A Novel in Pictures

2012-01-09T04:00:00.001-05:00

The title tells much of what this book reveals, but it's so much more. The story begins in 1920, and has the most amazing visual appeal. Frankie Pratt has just graduated high school,and she takes her dad's old Corona typewriter and begins her scrapbook. She dreams of being a writer, and leaving her hometown. Her family consists of her mother and two brothers. Her mom can't afford to send her to college, but when she believes Frankie might be getting too close to the grandson of the woman she works for, she finds a scholarship and a way to get Frankie to go to Vassar College

This is when even more adventures begin for young Frankie Pratt. Imagine the time of the flapper girls, of women's early independence and the like. Frankie meets new friends, those with money and influence and she experiences a whole new world.

The archival photos and memorabilia are just gorgeous in this book. The author, Caroline Preston, has collected antique scrapbooks and worked as an archivist for years. Reading this book was like slipping back in history and peeking intimately into Frankie's life. I kept my own scrapbook in high school, full of ticket stubs, gum wrappers , bottle caps , report cards, photos and more. I shudder to imagine what it will look like to a young person say in 2060.

This is an quick and enjoyable read, something light and nostalgic. I'm giving this a 4 out of 5 stars.

The End of a Long Sickly Week

2012-01-06T04:00:00.001-05:00

The week started out with me having a tickling in my throat on Sunday, I was bringing in the near year and trying to just will away that sore throat, but I felt it a bit while working on Sunday and then Monday I felt it too. By Monday night, I was coughing and I was filled with this:

I did not feel good at all....I didn't sleep well. I spent Tuesday in bed, taking cold and sinus meds, dozing some, reading some. These became my best friend:

Oh good lord have you tried these? They are the Cool Touch Kleenex, I'm receiving nothing for this raving endorsement, but they are remarkable. A tissue cool on your sore nose, cushy and soft, oh so wonderful.
Caitie left Tuesday mid morning to return to UNF, she was home for nearly a month, and I loved having her home, but it was time for her to go back. Adrienne and Nick went shopping so I did have a quiet house.

I slept worse on Tuesday night and missed yet another day of work on Wednesday, two days out. Does anyone really want your book seller or cashier to be hacking, sneezing, blowing her nose and sharing her germs? I didn't think so. Wednesday was almost worse....I nearly ran out of the magic tissues, and sent hubby for more, plus mucinex d, also no plug, but the meds work.
I slept better Wednesday night and woke feeling human, and though I rested most of the day Thursday I felt better.

So now my weekend is open, and I'm feeling a little better. My other daughter Adrienne leaves Sunday to go back to school. Nick returns to school on Monday, after a too too long winter break.
After the return of all kids to school it will start to feel like life is back to some normalcy.
My winter is full of short trips to see my parents in TX. One next weekend, one in Feb and one in March. My dad's recovering from a stroke and a fall, he's in rehab,but it's just very hard. I need to be there more to support both my folks as he recovers.
Here's to the Weekend....it's got to be better! I'm hoping you all enjoy some down time, some time to relax and recoup.

Book Review: Minding Frankie by Maeve Binchy

2012-01-04T04:00:00.001-05:00

The Lynch family is made up of Josie and Charles and their son Noel. Noel is sort of just going through life with no direction, he drinks too much, sleeps around a bit and has a job where he's headed no where in particular. His parents are kind, hard working people. Their niece Emily from America is coming for an extended visit, they aren't sure what to expect. Noel is thrust into a shocking reality, a former one night stand contacts him and summons him to hospital(as they say in the UK), where she tells him she is dying of cancer, and also pregnant with his daughter. Noel has to pull himself together to care for this new baby, Frankie, but he has no idea how he will do it. To his rescue come his entire community of family and friends and they lend more than just a hand. The term it takes a village, has never had truer meaning than in this book.

I found this book to be uplifting and lovely, but also realistic. Naturally there is at least one person who has no faith in Noel. Enter Moira, the social worker, she is portrayed as sneaky and suspicious of all that appears to good to be true. She is amazed at the support system Noel builds in a short period of time. His cousin Emily seems to just find the right answers, helps him find an apartment, suggests school, and more. Noel meets a friend Lisa in school, an entire other sub story going on with her and her family and her love interest, Anton, a chef and restauranteur. The characters all just mix and mingle and the reader learns of all the ups and downs of each person, and why they are happy or suspicious or skeptical.

While this is my first Maeve Binchy book I can say I think I'll read or listen to more. This audio was just fantastic, read by Sile Bermingham, she has wonderful inflections and accents, just perfect. I enjoyed the twists and turns and I felt as if I was in a section of Dublin with the small details.While heavy in the number of characters I never felt confused, they each play a part in making the book come to life. I gave this book a 4 out of 5 stars.

Goals and Challenges for Reading 2012

2012-01-02T04:00:00.004-05:00

Time to put my goals down in writing, to share with all the blogging world.
These are not huge goals, but very realistic for me.
I am planning to read 50 books in 2012, and that is almost a 50% increase over 2011, kind of a slacker in reading compared to many bloggers. I hope I can read an average of one book a week. It will mean much time management, getting off the computer, and not letting the goal of a number impact the quality of my reads.

I'm also participating in two reading challenges for 2012.
The first is an attempt to whittle down the huge To Be Read stack of books I own. My list of books I want to read is closer to 200, but the ones I already own is just over 45. Owning that many books that are unread is just silly....I need to temper my buying, and we all know how hard that is!! So this year I'm doing this lovely challenge I found on the blog, My Readers' Block.

There are varying levels of climbing the mountains, I've committed to reading 12 of my books, or climbing Pikes Peak. I hope I read more.
I'm also participating in a challenge that Beth Fish Reads hosts. This one is What's In A Name.

You can check out the link, but the categories include reading a book with a land formation in the title, reading a book with something you'd find on a calendar in the title. Looking forward to this fun too!!

So those are my goals....doable and yet challenging enough for me. Care to share yours? You know I'll be blog hopping to read them all!!

My Favorite Reads of 2011

2011-12-30T04:00:00.004-05:00

I've read a lot of Best of lists in the past month. Most book bloggers read several books a week, I'm not exclusive to blogging of books, and my reviews averaged about 2 a month, strikingly less. I'm setting bigger goals for myself next year...but that is another topic.

I decided that my favorite reads would be based on my ratings, and I have to admit, it seems slim, and I do have a few more favorites. For now, these 7 books that I gave 5 Star ratings will stand as my best reads of 2011.
Another best part of the year was discovering new authors. Only 4 books that I read in 2011 were from authors I'd read in the past. Between blogging and facebook and twitter I discovered just how wonderful writers can really be. I made new friends, learned so much from authors and all the self promotion they really have to do to get their books and name out there. I owe much to the writers I met at the UCF Bookfest, they know who they are!!
I also have expanded my mind and reading with book blogs that I am so thrilled to read daily. The side of my blog lists a few of my favorites.
So....without further ado...here are my favorite reads of 2011

Still Alice
The story of a women with early onset Alzheimer's disease. An amazing journey as she begins to lose touch with who she is. This book really made me cry, and remember to never take life for granted.

The Weird Sisters
This debut novel had me captivated from the start. Three sisters return home, for varying reasons and yet they all find something they need together. I can't wait to read more from Eleanor Brown.
Exposure: A Novel
Ripped from the headlines, teens sexting and sending questionable emails. I couldn't put this one down, and it had surprising twists and turns. As a mom of teens it lead to many open discussions.
The Time It Snowed In Puerto Rico
Having "met" the author, Sarah McCoy, online I was taken off to an island to learn the story of Verdita when I read this book. A beautiful coming of age story, I loved this book. Sarah's next book, The Baker's Daughter will be published January 24, 2012.
Maine
The story of a family of guilty Catholics, and what happens when they gather at the family beach house along the coast of Maine. Generations of women that give such a glimpse of family and life.
Faith
My second read from author Jennifer Haigh, and such a book with twists and turns. The story of Father Arthur Breen and the accusations of his perversions are just the tip of the iceberg in this novel. I was drawn into this book to learn some very sad truths.
Wench
Historical fiction that captivated me, a surprise for certain. Not usually a genre I pick up, but I met the author Dolen Perkins-Valdez at a bookfest and her discussion of the book really intrigued me. I learned so much about the lives of these mistress/slaves and I was saddened just reading of these struggles.

I'm looking forward to more great reads in 2012

I'm Dreaming of a White Christmas........

2011-12-25T01:00:00.001-05:00

I truly love this time of year, the decorations, the sweet smells, the music, the family home. I love the look of a snow covered Christmas...not so much the cold temps, or the slush that turns to ice and the ick that follows that snow.
No risk of that at all here in sunny Florida....today's high was about 81...unusually warm even for us.

It doesn't matter where you are or what the weather is like, if you are with those you love on Christmas, you are in a place of love.

My small family is together, Kevin, myself, Adrienne, Caitie and Nick. We spent Christmas eve together, eating dinner, and watching the Polar Express. We didn't drive around looking at lights, we've done that many times too.

I am wishing each of my blogging friends a Very Merry Christmas. Blogging and making new friends thought book and blogging have been a wonderful thing. I eagerly look for your new blog updates and read them and try to comment often. I hope your holiday no matter what you celebrate is warm and wonderful.

Book Review: The Bungalow by Sarah Jio

2011-12-22T04:00:00.002-05:00

In 1942 Anne Calloway is a young woman engaged to be married, she loves her fiance......., but when her best friend Kitty decides to join the Army Nurse Corps in the South Pacific, Anne goes with her. They are eager to help in our battle of WWII. From the moment they landed in Bora Bora Kitty seems different, she is too eager to attract the men stationed there. Anne sticks by her friend, and together they make new friends and explore the beautiful island where they are stationed.
Anne meets a handsome young soldier, Westry, and while they begin as just friends, their relationship grows. Anne has had doubts about the man she's engaged to. They support each each other and grow to form such a wonderful bond. They also have a project, a small hidden little bungalow, a bit run down, but with some work it becomes a place to go and escape all the talk of war and sadness.
This story of Anne, Westry and Kitty has other ups and downs and secrets, some that will take decades to resolve and be put to rest.

I've made no secret of my love for Sarah Jio's first novel, The Violets of March. This second novel did not disappoint. A love story that expands time and yet not a fluffy, happily ever after story that fits any mold of a love story I have read. The picturesque descriptions of Bora Bora and it's beauty and the Army base put the reader right in the South Pacific. I love the historical part of this book, my own parents were young and in love during WWII, and my family has fabulous pictures of my young parents. My dad in uniform, my mom wearing glamorous clothes, and I've heard a lot of stories. The Bungalow really felt honest and sincere to me, young people did meet under dire circumstances and fall in love in the oddest of places.

I really enjoyed this book, and gave it a 4.5 out of 5 stars. I'm recommending it to all my friends, and it's a wonderful gift to yourself, because you know you're going to get a gift card from a book store for Christmas or Hanukah.

I was able to read a digital ARC of this book from Net Galley, thank you so much for this opportunity!!

Update: 52 letters, 52 weeks Challenge

2011-12-15T04:00:00.001-05:00

So I began this journey with great expectations and enthusiasm. I started in January, and I tripped a bit but stayed fairly on top of the writing until May.
In May my girls graduated from high school, and there was so much activity in our house it was far from calm and conducive to quiet time for writing letters.
In June I accepted a part time job at Barnes and Noble, so my free time was even more limited.

I sent out over 20 letters this year, so not a total wash. Twenty letters that I would not have sent if not for the challenge I found on another blog, The Non-Consumer Advocate. Kate writes some lovely posts about her progress and how fun it is to send and receive mail.
I also received many letters in return, and those were a lovely treat when I opened my mail box. Quickly looking at the list I once started, I receive at least 10 letters.

I think I'm going to amend this challenge for 2012, but with new stationary that I HAD to have there is no excuse for not continuing to write letters.

Book Review: Wench

2011-12-14T04:00:00.001-05:00

I have been wanting to read this book ever since my friend Beth told me about it earlier this year. I then had the chance to hear the author, Dolen Perkins-Valdez, speak at the UCF Bookfest in March of this year. She was kind and engaging and her reading was so riveting.

Wench is the story of four women really. These are black slave women, who are also mistresses to their masters. In the summer they travel from their homes in the South to Ohio, a free state. In Ohio they stay at a resort, Tawawa House. They each stay in a little cabin, behind the big house. Lizzy meets Reenie, Sweet and Mawu and the lives, loves and tragedies of the four lead this book.

Lizzy believes she loves her master, Drell, and she has two of his children. She dreams of the day that he may release them, how could he bear to see them as slaves? We learn all about Lizzy, how she came to be the favored slave. She and the other slave women share with each other their stories and while three of them are reconciled to their role as slave and mistress, Mawu is not. As they reunite over many summers they share news of their lives on the plantations. They open up to each other as time goes on. Mawu is a mysterious woman, who is earthy and talks of herbs and spells and when she starts talking about running away the future of all these women is changed.

This book took me into the lives and emotions of these black women. My heart ached for their enslavement and yet I understood how choosing to risk it all for freedom was also leaving behind family and some security. I learned so much about this common practice among masters and slaves. The author's research and story are honest and ring true. I honestly cried in many parts of this book, wanting so much more for Lizzy and her friends.

I listened to the audio of this book, and the narration was wonderfully done by Robynne Young. I'm continually amazed at the voices and inflections of the narrators in audio books. This was spot on.

I gave this book a 5 out of 5 stars, I loved it so much. I urge you to read or listen to Wench.

Winner

2011-12-12T10:58:00.000-05:00

Happy to announce that Beth, my lovely friend and blogger has won the Campbell Lawson book giveaway!!
She chose WHEREDITGO, and I'll be sending her address along to Terra today!!

Thanks so much for stopping by, and I hope you'll all be able to see Campbell Lawson books in your local stores soon!!

Book Review and a Giveaway!!

2011-12-07T04:00:00.001-05:00

I have a wonderful friend, she loved both reading and writing, and she adores children. She has now combined her passions into a new exciting adventure and business. My friend Terra has started a small publishing company and has written and published three lovely children's books. Her company is CAMPBELL LAWSON, the names are a combination of her grandmother's maiden names. Please click on the links to see her personal blog, Sitting On An Oak, and her new business too.

So let me tell you about these books, they are adorable, so sweet and also teach lessons. They are perfect for pre-schoolers and beginning readers, with maybe a little help from mom or dad.

Wherediditgo?, a sweet story of a very messy little girl. What parent hasn't wondered where our kids keep or should we say loose all their things? Told from the child's voice, this is a simple and adorable book.

Rock n Friend is actually two books in one, told from both the perspective of a little girl, and a rock. Yes you heard that right, a rock. You simply turn the book over, and begin the other side of the story.

Somebody is perhaps the most advanced of these first three books, but oh so very honest. The girl in this book very much feels like her parents are always relying on her to help out, when anyone calls for "somebody" to bring this or that, it's always her. She also learns how much she is loved.

I hope you will look at CAMPBELL LAWSON and the books available. They hope to get into as many Independent Booksellers as possible, so if you happen to like what you see, perhaps pass this information along and you may be seeing the books closer to you.

I've been given the opportunity to give away one of these books to one of my lucky readers. Leave a comment and you'll be entered in the drawing. You may choose your book, so please include that information in your comment. Entries limited to US only, and book will be mailed to you by the publisher. Entries open until Sunday December 11th at 10pm.

Please share my blog with anyone you know with younger children, I'd really love to get the word out about this new source of beautiful children's books.

Thanks so much my friends!!!

What Happens after High School

2011-12-06T04:00:00.001-05:00

Over two years ago I posted about The In Crowd in my daughter's high school, and one person in particular, a girl I named Zelda.
I hadn't planned on updating this storyline, but then something happened to change my mind.
Zelda did graduate, no bells or whistles but she completed high school and didn't have a set plan for post high school education. She told me she wanted to go away to school, her parents disagreed and she was probably going to stay local and attend Community College.
Zelda continued her partying ways in high school, and I'm not sure was quite as "IN" as I had thought she was. Many people had seen through her.
A few weeks ago Zelda was arrested for a DUI, her arrest was in the local paper, her mug shot available online. So very sad, so very young, and such a waste of a young life.
I hope this is a wake up call and that she is able to get her act together.

Personally, this parenting of young adults is very difficult. I'm constantly helping my girls make the best choices possible. I'm very honest about the realities of them stumbling, I really hope they learn from the little things, and not the more drastic things that could happen.

So once again, I'm happy I'm not Zelda's mom.

My Week in Books, Book Store, and Family

2011-12-03T14:42:00.001-05:00

I am so happy today is Saturday!!! A day off, and the outside of the house is decorated for Christmas. We're working on the inside this afternoon and tonight.
My week has been busy with work and keeping up with the family.
On the book front I picked up an ARC at work of LONDONERS: The Day and Nights of London Now-As Told by Those Who Love It, Hate It, Live It,Left It, and Long For It by Craig Taylor

I've traveled and vacationed extensively in my youth across the US, but I dream of seeing Europe, I suspect this book will cause me to want it more.
I also won a copy of BEST KEPT SECRET by Amy Hatvany.

I won it from Andrea at Great thoughts, and there is a twitter chat on January 26 that I look forward to. I've read wonderful reviews of this book, and I will be reading this in January I suspect.

I'm reading THE WORLD WE FOUND by Thrity Umrigar, it is simply beautiful!! A wonderful book blogger Swapna, is hosting a giveaway and discussion of this book. Her blog S.Krishna's Books is marvelous, so rush over now through Monday December 5 to enter for a chance to win a galley and then join in the discussion on January 10, a week after it's release date.

My family is slowly recovering from the loss of my sister. She's been cremated and my niece will be disposing of the ashes, my sisters' wishes were to have them scattered up in the mountains, not far from where she lived in CA. Tomorrow would have been her 63rd birthday.

This upcoming week is finals for Caitie and Adrienne. Wishing them luck on this first of many finals weeks.

The book store is good, busy this past week, but not like other types of retail. I keep smiling and upbeat and it seems to calm harried customers. I've been buying up books and gifts for my family and friends.
Visit a book store near you to give the gift of words!!!

Sad and shocking news.

2011-11-28T18:03:00.000-05:00

This is a very odd thing to write, to share even. I've had a very detached relationship with my sister Bonita for most of my life. She's 11 years my senior and she moved away when I was 9 or 10. She's had a very hard life, yet most was her choice, or the result from what I believe was undiagnosed mental illness. She was diagnosed with epilepsy at age 14-15 I believe. The medications she's needed were hard on her body. She was a long time smoker, did many drugs I'm sure in her days, and lived fast. In recent years she's been suffering from COPD, and very aged body in just under 63 years. She got pregnant young, was practically forced into a bad marriage, and then gave her baby up for adoption. I was 8 or 9 and was told the baby died. She literally ran off to CA and was unheard of for months/or a year. She showed up a bit later with an infant daughter, and an empty suitcase. These times of having nothing were a repeated occurrence in her life. She married one more time, divorced too. Her daughter is over 40 I guess now, and has 2 of her own children, has been in prison for identity fraud and other things. We heard last week she was hospitalized again, there have been many times. Our family feels we never get answers to her health issues. She was unable to visit my parents in October, couldn't travel. They usually fly her to visit them once a year. The reports from my niece went from COPD complications to lung cancer, metastasized to her brain, and those were just from Friday and Saturday.

Last night my sister Ouida called to tell me my sister Bonita had passed away. Just that fast. She had been moved from the hospital to a skilled nursing facility. They do not know cause of death. I'm sort of numb, I haven't seen my sister in maybe 5+ years.
All this seems surreal. They are donating her body to science, and then she will be cremated. There will be no memorials, or anything. My parents are devastated, even though they too had a less than amicable relationship with her. No one expects to lose a child of any age. Thank you for letting me write all this here, somewhere.

I feel so awful, for my parents, for my niece, and for the loss of my sister. While we are never prepared to lose a family member I guess we all hope for one more conversation, one last time to say something about better times, and good memories. For now I can put on some Elvis music, her very favorite and maybe grab a beer and toast to my sister, hoping that if there is an afterlife she is pain free and happy.

The Love of Reading, My Early Years

2011-11-17T04:00:00.001-05:00

I have always loved books, some of my earliest memories are of reading and discovering new books. I believe my mom read to me a lot when I was very young. I have some vague memories and I know she has told me of those moments we shared.
I found some old reading books of my sisters when I was very young. They were old Dick and Jane books.

When I think about these old readers I must have been learning to read by age 4 to 5. I have a soft spot in my heart for these old repetitive simplistic books. I even bought my son Nick a reprint when he was learning to read.
When I was in elementary school my love of books increased. I don't remember a school library, but we did have regular visits from the Public Library Bookmobile. Did you have one in your hometown growing up? It was wonderful, I lived for those days at school. Our class would line up, and only so many students at a time were allowed in the bookmobile which looked like a converted bus or motor home type vehicle. It smelled wonderful!!
My reading quickly went from little girl and Judy Blume, to adult at about age 12-13, I read books my mom had laying around, I would buy books at the local 5 and 10 drug store, you know the ones with semi lewd mass market paperbacks. I loved The Catcher in the Rye, and Gone With the Wind, To Kill a Mockingbird, and so many more. These books took me away.....to places unknown, and I loved it.
These are some of my earliest reading memories, before college, and too many text books, and men, and the fun I had there.
What about you? Do you have early favorites? Did you have teen favorites too? I'd love to hear.

Book Review: The One That I Want

2011-11-16T04:00:00.001-05:00

Tilly Farmer is living the life she dreamed of. Married to her high school sweetheart, working as a high school counselor in her hometown that she loves. It sounds idyllic and yet, is it really that perfect? Tilly dreams of having a child with her husband Tyler to complete her happy family. Things appear to be going her way, and then she decides to visit a psychic at a local fair. This psychic is actually a girl she went to high school with, and this person gives her the gift of "clarity". Tilly wonders what it means.

Suddenly her dreams take a nightmarish turn, as she begins to see things before they happen. Her now sober father returns to drinking. Her complacent hubby is not so happy and has plans to move them away...and more.

Tilly's sisters and her best friend play major roles in her discovery, what has really been happening in her family while she was building her pretty little life?

I enjoyed this audio recording of this book. I have extra time in the car with working now, and I love listening to audio books. This story moved along so well, and yet had just the right amount of twists and turns to keep it interesting and not predictable. My feelings for Tilly went from liking her, to wanting to slap her for being naive, and then back to really wanting her to be happy.

This is my first read from Allison Winn Scotch, and I'm looking forward to many more. She's got a new one coming out in April 2012.

I gave this book a 4 out of 5 stars, a very good read!

My Weekend in Review

2011-11-14T11:39:00.000-05:00

I had planned a relatively quiet weekend, watching Adrienne's college team play some softball, some reading, relaxing. Friday after work was a wonderful start. Kevin had the day off and met me for late lunch, we then went to see the movie J. Edgar, very well done, love Leo de Caprio. We grabbed a late take out dinner for Nick and came home.

The 9:30 phone call was surprising. Caitie crying her eyes out--what happened--she was suppose to be at her sorority's formal. She was crying because she had drank too much, thrown up on the bus to event and been send home in a cab. Oh my stars...first to deal with the tears. I offered to drive the nearly 2 hours up to soothe her, no no, she would call a friend. Her friend went to her dorm room, called me that she was calming down and feeling better. I had dressed and packed a backpack. 10:30 she called me again, missing me, wanting me, and so I left, and drove to her dorm. My poor baby, humiliated, shamed, embarrassed, worried about how it might be handled by her sorority's board that oversees this type of behavior. I comforted her, and talked, she was now sober and blaming no one but herself. She was taking responsibility, a big step in moving on I believe. We eventually slept.
Saturday she was off to a day of work with the others on the nominating committee for her sorority, likely an all day event, but she wanted me to stay, to spend the evening with her. I did. I was bored out of my mind...well not really, I did read, and watch a movie, and read, and cleaned her bathroom. Then my second surprise arrived in a phone call from my husband. He and son had gone to see softball games and taken Adrienne out to lunch, where she then showed him her recently pierced tongue. I'm not against expressing yourself with piercings. I've done my own body adornment, but I was older than 18. I asked both my girls to please hold off on more tattoos or piercings until they were older, and more mature to make those choices. Clearly the classic in one ear and out the other theory comes to mind in this situation.

I suddenly felt spent, worn out, ineffective as a parent. One daughter drunk, one piercing herself up, likely ruining enamel on her teeth and who knows what. Now I'm not foolish, I know it's not my fault and no matter how much I may have warned and attempted to advise on these topics each young person has to find their own way. I did my fair share of underage drinking in college. Sure I threw up, and even passed out a few times, and I never once called my mom to tell her about it. So maybe my daughter did feel she could lean on me, and I'm happy for that. My other daughter, much more sneaky and underhanded, waiting two weeks to see if we noticed, she's seen us twice. Certain that my main concern was cost, she informed us that it was done free, by a brother of a teammate. She doesn't really understand altering your body and my concerns that she wait. I at first wanted the damn thing out....or I was taking her car, about all we have as she is nearly 100% college funded by a scholarship.

Now with time to think, I know my support is my most valuable gift to my daughters.
Caitie has been removed from her position on the committee she was so proud of, she was giving some harsh warnings about her behavior. She has to pay for the clean up of the bus and the cost of her cab ride home. She will be paying us back for those expenses, and she's accepted that with no problem. She now wants things to go back to how they were, and I shared with her that she needs to remember her values and integrity, and that she will regain her reputation.
Adrienne has said that the piercing is not worth upsetting everything and she will take it out, and we will discuss it this weekend. Maybe I doth protest too much.
I did have some reading time...I've started The Bungalow, by Sarah Jio, it releases in December and I'm already in love with the book.
I'm hoping for a better week, and today is a peaceful start. A day off for laundry and housekeeping. I've found some writing time, and next will be some reading time before a visit to the post office and grocery.
Wishing you a good week. How was your weekend, and what are you reading?

Book Review: Secrets of the Magic Ring

2011-11-10T04:00:00.001-05:00

I wanted to read this children's story from author Karen McQuestion because I have loved her adult novels and knew this would be just as wonderful.

Paul is thrilled when his Aunt offers to pay for a pool for his 9th birthday. He is fascinated by the digging and prepping for the pool........and then something magical and mysterious is found, a real buried treasure. Paul believes he has really found something beautiful and valuable, but he also reads the instructions and he soon learns the power behind one's most desired wish. Aunt Vicky's fear of water is gone, and soon she loves swimming above all other things. Paul meets a boy that has stayed a boy for decades....and more. Be careful what you wish for has never been more true.

I love the timelessness of this book. When reading it I realized it could have taken place almost any time in the last 20 or so years. The illustrations by Vincent Desjardins are so well done and also classic in feel. This book is fantasy and lessons to be learned rolled into one. The adventures that Paul has are so appealing to a child boy or girl, and I truly enjoyed each one.

I'm sending this book off to a friend with 2 young boys, because I know they too will love this new book. I'm recommending this book especially to boys from 9-12, but I think girls would like it too.

Almost Wordless Wednesday

2011-11-02T04:00:00.000-04:00

Before the US Shuttle program was recently shut down, this was the view I had on most Launch Days

It is such a sad time in my small town. This launch was from early 2010.
Now we rely on the Russians to assist the International Space Station.

Book Review: The Violets of March

2011-11-01T04:00:00.001-04:00

In this debut novel from Sarah Jio I see such wonderful things to come. I've had this book for a few months, and while I wanted to read it,but I had to find the right time, and oh my goodness when I did, I was so sorry for waiting. I must confess I fell in love with the author, Sarah, on twitter and facebook. She is a wonderfully open and honest woman with such a gift, I cannot wait to read everything she writes.

Emily is mourning the death of her marriage, and feeling as if she may never write anything of substance again. Her best seller is over 10 years old, and fans have stopped asking about her next work. Worse still when she considers that best seller she isn't so happy with it, and doesn't want to be remembered for it alone. When Emily is contacted my her Great Aunt Bee who lives on Bainbridge Island off the coast of Seattle, she is happy to accept her invitation to get away and recharge at a place where her memories are sweet.
Emily feels relaxed and happy to back on the island where she spent many summers exploring in her youth. She eagerly adapts to the shore and begins to meet new people, and then one day she finds a new treasure. She discovers a worn, red velvet diary in a nightstand drawer of her bedroom. The diary is written by a woman she doesn't know, but the landmarks and friendships seem to be a window into a past Emily needs to learn more of on her beloved Bainbridge Island. The story of Esther and Elliot will be only the beginning.
As a reader I was taken back to the early 1940's to young love and betrayal. The story is about the past and the present in the journey Emily must take for herself, to know herself better.
I felt such heartache and tenderness for the people in this book. We meet Emily's wonderful Aunt Bee, a woman who just reminds you of your own favorite Aunt, maybe better, one who will cook for you, and drink with you. Bee has her own dear friend Evelyn, and then there are the men. Emily's former teen heartthrob Greg, and a new mysterious man Jack, and an old gentleman she instantly admires, Henry. The personal details of each person, and their emotions were so well done. The descriptions of Bainbridge Island had me wanting to run away and see this lovely place. I have no doubt I will someday make that journey myself. I have already shared this book with two of my closest friends, knowing they will enjoy it as much as I have. I'm giving it a 4.5 out of 5 stars rating.

Please visit Sarah Jio's website to learn more about her next novel, The Bungalow, which will be available December 27, a great way to spend any gift cards and cash you may receive for the holidays.

Book Review: Faith

2011-10-31T04:00:00.001-04:00

I read about this book before it was released in May, and I was intrigued by it's premise. The tale of a Catholic Priest, accused of molesting a young boy, the impact these accusations had on his family. FAITH is about so much more than this.

Told from the point of view of Sheila, sister to Father Arthur Breen, we learn all about her brother Art. He is many years older than her, and they are half siblings, still they share a bond, a love that many families share.

Early in the book we know Arthur is accused of the most heinous of crimes. Sheila has long left the North Shore area where she grew up, she's put distance between she and her family. Sheila is drawn back to the Boston area to see how she can help Arthur, and she tells this story as a memoir, or an explanation of how all of Art's life has impacted his choices, and how it has led up to where he is. We are woven in and out of the life of Mary, their mother, her fist marriage, and then her second marriage. We learn about their childhoods, and then what both Sheila and Mike, Art's siblings, are willing to do to learn about their brother, and his priestly and family secrets. While so hard to discuss Mary never doubts that Arthur is innocent,he is too quiet, too good. Younger brother Mike searches for answers but also protects his young sons from his brother, he is unsure of Arthur's innocence.

The topic of priests and sexual misconduct is so sensitive and yet gripping. Haigh tells the story of a family in turmoil, and one with poor communications. The court of public opinion naturally convicted Father Art from the start, but accusations and gossip are just one part of this book. This story is so much deeper and heart wrenching than the publisher's synopsis gives away. As a Catholic I was intrigued, but as a sister and daughter I was drawn into the secrets and the realities of Arthur's life.

I am giving this book a 5 out of 5 stars, and I recommend it to anyone who enjoys a tale that is much deeper than the surface exposes. I believe this would make an excellent book club or group discussion.

A look back at the week, and month

2011-10-30T07:00:00.001-04:00

October has just flown by........and can't believe that Tuesday will be November, and that so many things are winding down.
My week was very busy, I worked 5 days, which is really more than I have in the four months I've been at B&N, we really aren't seeing an up tick in traffic or sales, it so happens one person was on vacation and I picked up some hours. I am having more fun with returning customers and recommending books and authors they haven't tried. I'm also amazed at where book bloggers and booksellers lead me. My book stacks continue to grow, and I'm expanding my comfort zone too, very exciting.

I picked up an advanced copy of The World We Found by Thrity Umrigar, I've not read a book by her, but I recognized the name and I am looking forward to this one.
Two weeks ago, a local book blogger stopped by the store and we had coffee and talked books. Heather from Raging Bibliomania is so very kind and generous. She brought me books!! One I won from her blog and the other something she thought I'd enjoy...so sweet. We plan on meeting up again soon.
Working does not leave me extra time for reading, but Saturday I had some nice quiet time, and Monday I'll be off and able squeeze in some more quality reading time. With my growing list I have added audio books into my drive time. I've got about 35 minutes each way and the library is my friend again. I finished one this week, The One That I Want, by Allison Winn Scotch, and now I'm deep in another....really love using my time wisely. I'm reading The Night Strangers by Chris Bohjalian, and listening to Wench by Dolen Perkins-Valdez.

So look forward to some new book reviews this week....

In family news Adrienne is doing physical therapy from a shoulder injury. She is thrilled nothing was torn, but sad to be sitting the bench during fall ball. Caitie called nearly 2 weeks ago in tears because she needed to drop a class. Chemistry was just not clicking and she had used the tutoring center and spoken with her professor and decided at best she might get a C. She needs the class for engineering and so she did drop it, and will retake in next semester or in summer. This teacher required a LOT of memorizing, not her strong suit. It was a real roller coaster,but we are past it and she is fine. Nick finished his first 9 weeks and managed 6 A's and 2 B's. He even brought up his B's to high B's and I think the tutor we hired was well worth it. Parenting is the most challenging role I've ever had, and it just keeps changing. Love my kids, such wonderful works in progress.
Have a wonderful week.............

Read-a-thon Wrap up

2011-10-23T14:43:00.000-04:00

I have to say I had lofty goals and ideas about yesterday.
In the planned 24 hour period I knew I'd likely only read 10-12 hours, and then, I actually read much less.
I only completed one book.
I read part of a second book, but not much...ugh.
My notes for a better read-a-thon:
Plan better to be home and less in demand. I knew I was going to be away from home and even thought I couldn't participate, but decided to try.
My first book was a good choice, short YA novel. I don't want to read just anything for the sake of reading, so planning good choices will be work.
Planning for snacks and meals, again I was in a hotel and not home to do it myself.
Choosing just one role----I felt I was a good cheerleader, but not such a good reader. I'd rather be a reader next time, and I hope have others cheer me on.

The next Read-a-thon is in April, and I'll be back with a plan!!!

Read-a-thon, the second half!!

2011-10-22T21:54:00.000-04:00

I had no idea how hard it would be to do this and be at a social event with my husband. We had a very delicious formal dinner this evening, taking up 3 long hours. I've now had plenty of wine. I have been able to be an awesome cheerleader...ahem, because it was easier to quickly visit a few blogs than get some quiet quality time in this afternoon to read. Given a few minutes to quietly lie still my hubs will be asleep soonish. We've decided to get up early and go home to meet our kids for breakfast before Caitie heads back to UNF.
I'm updating with this anyway.

Mid-Event Survey:
1. What are you reading right now? Looking for Salvation at The Dairy Queen by Susan Gregg Gilmore
2. How many books have you read so far? one
3. What book are you most looking forward to for the second half of the Read-a-thon? The one I am just beginning
4. Did you have to make any special arrangements to free up your whole day?I thought I had it better planned out. Lessons to learn.
5. Have you had many interruptions? How did you deal with those?I've had to many obligations and I did use those interruptions to cheer and blog hop.
6. What surprises you most about the Read-a-thon, so far?How much others are reading!!
7. Do you have any suggestions for how to improve the Read-a-thon next year?
8. What would you do differently, as a Reader or a Cheerleader, if you were to do this again next year?I'm going to plan to read only, and be at home, with my goals stated and my schedule cleared.
9. Are you getting tired yet?no
10. Do you have any tips for other Readers or Cheerleaders, something you think is working well for you that others may not have discovered? I was only visited by 2 cheerleaders in 13 hours, I think that's kind of slim, but I don't know.

Read-a-thon Seven Hours down

2011-10-22T15:27:00.001-04:00

I finished a book:CUT by Patricia McCormick

Read pages:151, well plus the Q&A at the end.

Not exactly a rousing total, I'd say I've read actually 2-3 of the past 7 hours.
I ate breakfast, wandered around hotel, napped, blogged, twittered, ate lunch, talked to my hubs who is now done with his meeting and would like to walk around and relax a bit.

Cut is the story of Callie a 13-14 year old girl who is currently living in a treatment facility, Sea Pines, where the girls in treatment refer to it as Sick Minds. The patients range from girls with eating disorders, addictions and other mental issues, like cutting oneself.
The books is written from Callie's point of view,and tells her story. She is first silent as she attends Group and one on one therapy. She listens, but does not share. She thinks so very very much, and we, the reader, hear it all. How she first cut herself, how her little brother is sick, how her family life seems out of control.
This book was so personal and so honest, it broke my heart in places, but at the same time it helped me see how a mental illness can take over a person's life. McCormick did her research on this one, now celebrating it's 10th year since publication. How do you say it's a book you appreciate for it's brutal honesty, but yet is it something you enjoy? I can't speak for anyone but myself, but I did feel a bit torn with this subject matter. I'm so glad I've read it, and I think many teens would appreciate it. I'm giving it a 4 out of 5 stars.

Onto more reading, if I can when I get done taking a long walk with hubs!!

Happy reading all!

Read-a-thon Hour Four

2011-10-22T11:12:00.000-04:00

Hour 4 has begun, I've only read less than half of my little book Cut. I'm so easily swayed to read blogs and comment...tsk tsk. Or twitter....

I have cheered on 3 other book bloggers.

I just participated on a great little challenge....go look and join yourself.
I'm pushing on.....I've read in a chair, in the lobby, at a desk, on the balcony. I've had coffee and water. part of a so so banana muffin.

Off to read more!!

Read-a-thon First Hour

2011-10-22T09:15:00.000-04:00

I do realize I've been reading an hour or so. I was somewhat late due to breakfast, but then I got started and then I took a short in chair nap. Have I mentioned what a morning person I am not!!

First up, some questions in a meme form

1)Where are you reading from today?
2)Three random facts about me…
3)How many books do you have in your TBR pile for the next 24 hours?
4)Do you have any goals for the read-a-thon (i.e. number of books, number of pages, number of hours, or number of comments on blogs)?
5)If you’re a veteran read-a-thoner, any advice for people doing this for the first time?

Here are my answers:

1.I am reading from a hotel. My husband is working, a planning meeting, and so I'm at the Dolphin Resort, Walt Disney World. I'm starting in my room.
2. a. I am the youngest of 4 children
b. When asked I always say my favorite pastime is reading.
c. I have 3 children, and 2 of them do not enjoy reading, they have slight learning disabilities and have never enjoyed it.
3. I brought with me 5 books, a new magazine and a loaded Kindle. I had 2 books in progress when I left my house.
4.My goals, I'd like to read 3 or more books, a rather lofty goal. I'd also like to visit 10 new blogs or more to cheer others along
5. This is my first time!!

Happy Friday and planning for tomorrow

2011-10-21T17:17:00.000-04:00

I am happily relaxing in a lovely hotel room. My husband, Kevin, has a planning session with the board of directors of the credit union he works for this weekend. We're at the Dolphin Resort @ Walt Disney World.
We've just had a nice walk around the property and come back to our room. We'll be leaving for dinner shortly....eek I hate eating early.

Tomorrow I'll be getting up early and participating in an all day 24 hour Read-a-thon!!! Drop by my blog tomorrow to see what I'm reading, what blogs I'm visiting and more!!

What am I doing this weekend?

2011-10-20T17:30:00.000-04:00

I am so excited, this will be my first time participating in Dewey's Read-a-Thon!! I learned about this either in April this year or last fall, when book blogger I followed participated.
Go check it out and tell if this does not sound like a fun way to spend 24 hours.

I'm happily going to be staying at the Disney Dolphin Resort, where my husband has his annual Credit Union Planning meetings. I'll take breaks for great meals, and walking around Disney's Boardwalk and if I'd like I can be listening to audio books, or not. I'm taking books, ebooks, and audios loaded on my iPod. I'm so very excited!!

I'm also signed up to be a cheerleader, where I'll blog hop and cheer on other readers. I'll be posting updates on my reading progress, and participating in some fun games too I hope.

Family Time

2011-10-04T07:00:00.002-04:00

We had a fabulous weekend visiting with our girls.
I was hit suddenly last week by an online friend expressing my helicopter parenting. I've been called many things, but not this one. I'm not sure what an acceptable level of contact is with ones college aged children(almost adults). There is nothing written in stone, but there are plenty of books on the subject, lordy do I really need to read more? I've come to realize we all parent in our own way, from birth to adulthood we all do it differently. This is no different as to how we communicate with and visit our college age children. So this is how we do it, and it's working for us. In case you're wondering, I told the online friend to take a leap!

In less than 24 hours we saw 2 softball games, visited with Caitie, ate 2 meals out. Nick was able to get a fairly good tour of the UNF campus, and a new t shirt. Would any visit be complete without a visit to the bookstore? I think not!
After breakfast Saturday morning we were on the road home, and onto football for Nick.
Here are a few pictures

With Caitie, Saturday morning

Nick, Adrienne, and Caitie after the game

Nick and his friend Preston

This week is fairly quiet, work, school for Nick, and then a quiet weekend, football is the only thing scheduled.

We're having nicer temps here in Florida and I'm enjoying it so much. I'd like it a bit cooler, but it will come.

Last week I organized my books.......way too many to read, but I'm determined to tackle them!

Oh my mom is going to buy my Kindle, once I finish some books that I must read, and then I can purchase a nook. I have to admit I think it's a better product, with great customer service, and I'm excited about getting it in a month or so.

Book Review: Little Black Dress

2011-10-03T07:00:00.002-04:00

This book is really the story of two sisters, a daughter and a dress. Much of the story is a look into the past.
As the book open, Evie is unable to sleep, she needs to know about the future, she needs to know about her relationship with her daughter, Antonia. Evie is curious about her sister Anna, long ago lost, but with much mystery and secret. Evie is determined to go into the attic...to find the answers, to see the future...she pulls herself up the steps, to find, the little black dress. As Evie pulls the dress on, she begins to feel strange, and suddenly all is dark. Evie suffers a massive stroke..

A curious beginning. What can be seen and learned from a dress?

Two stories converge in this novel. The story of Evie and her daughter, how they are distant and uncomfortable with each other. Only when her mother has a stroke does Antonia, or Toni, come home. Home is the small town of Blue Hills, Missouri. The second story is the historical story of Evie and her sister Anna, how they were raised in Blue Hills, their father owned a vineyard and was a wine maker. Their youth would set the future of their father's dreams.

I enjoyed Little Black Dress, it was much deeper and different than I had expected. Full of those family secrets and hushed names that bring good story telling to great. I was so happy to see references to real places I know, having grown up in St. Louis. Sainte Genevieve is indeed a lovely town near the imaginary Blue Hills. It was like going back to the lovely little wineries in Missouri.

I became aware of this book in the early summer as I became friends with the author, Susan McBride on facebook. Susan is a frequent contributor on the blog Girlfriends Book Club. Have you ever just clicked with an author, felt like you'd been introduced to an instant friend? This is how comfortable I felt with Susan. She currently lives in St. Louis, near and dear to my heart. My college was where her father went to school, though she is a KU fan, I try not to hold it against her. Susan graciously sent me an ARC of her book, and I know that can be touch and go, what if I didn't like the book....well there was no worry there..........I loved it.

I'm giving this book a 4 out of 5 star rating, if you enjoy a women's fiction, with a twist of magic and mystery, then this book is for you.

Friday Five

2011-09-30T11:00:00.000-04:00

It has been forever since I wrote one of these posts......April of 2010 to be exact...I looked I wrote 11 of these....what the heck happened, I'm fairly certain there are 52 of these a year!!
Any who.....I attempt to list 5 things I am thankful for with this meme, it's just mine, not linked up to anyone else, and something mostly just for me. Here we go.

1. I am so happy and thankful to have my family...and today we are all going to see each other, it's been about 7 weeks. Heading to Jacksonville to visit with Caitie, and seeing Adrienne's college softball team play UNF!

2. I love my job, so thankful to have found a part time gig just for me. Selling books, who could wish for me, ok I could wish I was encouraged to read more at work...ha ha.

3. I have organized my books, culling through them and vowing to give away the ones I'm not in love with. I just don't have the space. I've identified 40 something books,less than a dozen of those in e-book format that I need to read....most I've won, been given, been sent graciously and asked to read. I admit to buying some too. I'm not a fast reader, one a week is a lofty goal for me..eek!!Books....I love them, so thankful to have them.

4. I'm thankful for the contacts made from the books, the blogs, the authors, twitter, etc!

5. I am thankful for cooler weather that is promised tomorrow...that forecaster better be right, or I may have to hurt him!!

Happy weekend all!!

Almost Wordless Wednesday

2011-09-28T06:00:00.001-04:00

Albuquerque Balloon Festival October 2001

College Girls

2011-09-27T07:00:00.002-04:00

I'm happy to update that both my girls are doing well. Adrienne has been gone six weeks, Caitie five. Both have come home once. I've seen Adrienne in between, thankfully, because of softball.

Adrienne is my very independent and happy to be out of a small town girl. While I've never shared this before on my blog, it seems like I should explain her eagerness to leave. Adrienne is gay. She is also happy, confident and comfortable in her own skin.. She told us when she was 14, and we weren't really surprised. We worried about the ignorance of others, as people can be so cruel. We live in a smaller town, full of rednecks and conservative Christians. I consider myself a very liberal Christian, a cafeteria style Catholic more on the Kennedy side of liberalism. We believe in Adrienne, she's a wonderful young woman, and now that she's living in a more urban area, going to college, and surrounded by a less judgmental group she is loving life even more!!

Caitie with her Aunt Ouida

When Caitie came home we spent an entire day shopping! She's pledged a sorority, something I always wanted to do. She chose Kappa Alpha Theta and I've already bought greek merchandise for her. She said she needed more dresses and things for her Chapter meetings and such. Family weekend is in October and we will meet her soon to be "sisters" at a Brunch. She's making friends and staying busy with academics and fun. She aced her first Calculus 2 quiz and she had her first big test yesterday, crossing fingers and toes.

Adrienne has started fall exhibition softball games. We saw one game last Saturday, and caught one just this past Saturday night. Her batting has found it's sweet spot and she hit a double and a triple last night!! It's exciting to watch this college level play. It was one of Adrienne's dreams come true to play at this level.

I'm adjusting to being without them daily, but it's not easy. I miss talking to them, though they do text or call daily. Nick misses them too, but he's doing fine. Laundry is less, cooking is less too. We all joke that the kids bathroom is cleaner and there is more hot water!

This Friday Adrienne's college softball team is playing at UNF, Caitie's school. So we're going up, seeing 2 games, hanging with Caitie and spending the night in Jacksonville. It will be nice to see the family together again, all 5 of us, silly to some I know, but we do love each other.

I'm amazed when I think we have two daughters in college, when did they grow up, heck when did I grow up? It's naturally caused me to nostalgically recall my own college days. I loved my years at the University of Missouri, I was not an outstanding student, I did excel in socialization and dating and growing up. I learned so much about other people, I met my first gay friends, gained more friendships and some I still hold dear today. I enjoyed football games, Greek parties, any parties, playing the field, learning how to manage my money or lack of. For as long as I've thought about it, I wanted my own children to move away and spread their own wings in school.........I can't even express how proud I am of them, and happy we are able to help them with this growth experience.

Book Review: Maine

2011-09-26T07:00:00.002-04:00

I have to say this novel by J. Courtney Sullivan was my favorite of the summer, and perhaps the entire year.
Maine is a sweeping novel, digging into the history of one family and the secrets each member keeps and how their relationships are formed and strained.
The story of the Kellehers begins with the matriarch, Alice, and the reader is taken back to her youth, her siblings and her much beloved sister, and the secret she can never forgive herself for. We learn of her early marriage to Daniel and their children, and then we learn more about Kathleen, her daughter, Ann Marie her daughter in law and Maggie, Kathleen's daughter. Each of these women love and yet harbor grudges against each other, and during one summer at the beloved summer beach house in Maine the women are thrown together to face some of their problems.

As the story moves us in the past and current lives of our four Kelleher women we learn of their loves and losses and dreams. The reader is taken seamlessly along this journey, Sullivan weaves her words and this tale so very well. I loved how I could feel the pain and passion in each woman's story. I felt so much love and compassion for each woman, at some places being moved to tears.

The influence and devotion to the Catholic church by Alice is carried over into all her relationships. It reminded me so much of my mother in law, Pauline, and how her faith in the church was all encompassing, Sullivan really nailed this characterization.

I loved Maine, and I gave it a 5 out of 5 stars, I recommend it to everyone. I've recently ordered Commencement, Courtney Sullivan's first book, I look forward to reading more by her, she is a wonderful storyteller.

Saturday Thoughts

2011-09-24T07:00:00.000-04:00

Happy Saturday, and I've got a full one. Today is my husband's company picnic....they bring in BBQ and have games and things for kids. I'll be there part of the day, and then also watch Nick play football.

I haven't fallen off the face of the earth, it just feels like it.

One of my newest pet peeves is people who talk on their cell phones...as they are paying for their books,or as they are asking for help finding a book. That dang cell phone is just attached to their ear...and it's so rude.

If you're a book buyer, there are some really good titles available at bn.com bargains for $1.99 and $2.99, I found some older titles that are on my TBR list. I bought COMMENCEMENT, THOSE WHO SAVE US, PROMISE NOT TO TELL, QUEEN OF PALMYRA,& THE CENTER OF EVERYTHING. With free member shipping(yep I'm selling it...lol) I paid under $12 for all 5. Love a sale.

I also discovered bookswap on goodreads this week, what a great deal, have you seen it. I listed a book, a trade paperback I didn't really love and in less than 5 minutes it was requested and I printed a label and mailed it out the next day. Check out the link above or to to Explore....bookswap on your own goodreads account.

Two book reviews to write, and a couple of movies we've seen too. Have you been watching the new TV shows this week? My personal favorite so far in new shows is Up All Night. In returning shows this weeks Modern Family and Big Bang Theory were great!!!

Happy reading, moving watching, having fun with your loved ones weekend!!!

Book Review: Save Me

2011-09-02T14:00:00.001-04:00

Hardcover, 384 pages

Published April 12th 2011 by St. Martin's Press

From Goodreads:

Rose McKenna volunteers as a lunch mom in her daughter Melly’s school in order to keep an eye on Amanda, a mean girl who’s been bullying her daughter. Her fears come true when the bullying begins, sending Melly to the bathroom in tears. Just as Rose is about to follow after her daughter, a massive explosion goes off in the kitchen, sending the room into chaos. Rose finds herself faced with the horrifying decision of whether or not to run to the bathroom to rescue her daughter or usher Amanda to safety. She believes she has accomplished both, only to discover that Amanda, for an unknown reason, ran back into the school once out of Rose's sight. In an instance, Rose goes from hero to villain as the small community blames Amanda’s injuries on her. In the days that follow, Rose's life starts to fall to pieces, Amanda’s mother decides to sue, her marriage is put to the test, and worse, when her daughter returns to school, the bullying only intensifies. Rose must take matters into her own hands and get down to the truth of what really happened that fateful day in order to save herself, her marriage and her family.

This is the second book I've read from Lisa Scottoline, last summer I read Look Twice, and really enjoyed it. The book begins with an explosion near the school cafeteria, where Rose is on lunch mom duty, and as she has just decided to intercede when she realizes her daughter is being bullied. As the synopsis states Rose is quickly judged and criticized for what appears as her lack of interest and humanity when it appears she has left Amanda behind to save her own daughter Melly.
Rose's insistence on her recollection of the events drives her to seek answers from the most unlikely of sources.
Scottoline writes with such wonderful foreshadowing, and yet as a reader I couldn't really figure out was was going to happen. I love the passion she writes into her characters, even the venomous passion shown by Amanda's mother as she was sure Rose had left her daughter to die.
I rated this book a 4 out of 5 stars, I really liked it. I'd recommend it to anyone who enjoys a good mystery, one more character driven than some.

College Move in Part 2

2011-09-01T21:23:00.000-04:00

I clearly don't wish to rush anything....LOL. Between sending the girls off to college and learning to balance work and our home, I've been so busy, or just not into writing, unsure.

Without further ado, we moved Caitie up to UNF in Jacksonville on Friday August 19, and this is what our two cars looked like packed! Actually we had more room than I thought.
Caitie's roommate Sarah and her folks followed us up, and so we had a 4 car caravan heading up I-95. I rode with Caitie and she is a fantastic driver, and it was good to just chat with her. Upon arrival we were greeted by several clubs and groups offering help hauling up all the "stuff" that makes a dorm room home. What a nice thing that was, so helpful!! This is the room mostly empty.

We also had the help from a local girl who is currently a senior at UNF. She and a friend helped move things up and they set up the whole bathroom.

The dorm was originally built for 3 students, and has 3 large closet areas, but no doors, so we bought shower curtains and hung them up.

I think it turned out so cute.
Caitie's desk area was a work in progress, as honestly I'm sure the whole room is, I feel certain in time the girls will move furniture around and make it feel like their own.

We went to the book store and picked up her books, nice thing now was we could pre-order them online. I tried to rent them or find them cheaper, but 3 of her 4 classes use books created just for UNF...ugh.
We then all went out for a quick dinner as Caitie and Sarah already had plans for their first night on campus. I admit I full out cried when we were leaving. Caitie is the more emotional and huggable of my two girls, and she was hugging me so night, and I just loved it.
Now, two weeks later, all is well. She is enjoying classes and the new friends she is making too. She has decided to go through sorority rush and that actually begins tonight...she is very excited!!

Much more to share, hoping to write more this weekend!!

College Move In...part 1

2011-08-20T07:00:00.002-04:00

Last Saturday we moved Adrienne into her college apartment. She is living with 3 other softball players. This is what our entry way looked like before we started packing the cars.

We had a dresser, a night stand, a table and chairs, bedding, clothes, etc etc etc.
Now the stuff we moved was only part of this ordeal. I honestly have done really well while preparing for my girls moving out. I was thrilled at 18 to move out and move on, college was a wonderful 4.5 years, full of adventure and learning, and much more than what I learned in the classroom.
I'm excited for both Adrienne and Caitie.
Now I admit I did an awful job of taking pictures. Sorry. Adrienne got all her papers signed with her roomies and we arrived just in time to start carrying everything up to the 2nd floor. I made two trips, and then my job was to unpack, and arrange. I started in the kitchen, small but workable. I snagged the best pantry shelf for Adrienne. No picture.
I moved to the bathroom, and it looks cute.

After we got Adrienne's bed from another apartment, a gift/hand me down from a player, great sharing, we set it up, and I made it up.

My child is so charming!!
Another roommate brought 2 sofas, and another had a large TV for their living room. In all the apartment is just fine, nothing fancy but cute.
We went out to a late lunch, put a few more finishing touches on things, and left before 5pm.
She's been there a week now.........classes start Monday. She's been mostly playing around, but had athlete orientation Thursday and Friday.
Posting soon...............Part 2....Caitie's move to Jacksonville and UNF.

Happy 18th Birthday Caitie and Adrienne

2011-08-18T23:44:00.000-04:00

On Friday August 12, my beautiful twin girls became legal adults, and what did they do?

The designed and got a tattoo. Ok, yes it's something special to them. A flip flop and a tennis shoe, initials above each, and their birth date under it. They paid for it, they signed for it, and I went for support. I'm not 100% against tattoos but I just think it's something they could regret.

So we took them out to dinner with friends.

The yummy turtle brownie is from Something Sweet..so so good.
They went out dancing at a club, and had a great night.....so much going on here!!

Winners!!!

2011-08-08T15:30:00.000-04:00

I used Random.org to choose the winners. The lucky winners are:
Ali

Heather..heatheranne99@gmail.com
and
Lori Bushor Parrish(who I went to HS with and stopped by from fb)

Congrats ladies and please email me your addresses so I can forward to the publisher!!
I hope you enjoy Bezellia!!

Paperback Release of Bezellia and a Giveaway!!!

2011-08-03T20:32:00.000-04:00

This is an exciting week…the birth of a new paperback book.

I feel that when a hardback book evolves to be released in paperback it reveals itself to an entire new audience. A few months ago I read a fabulous book from Susan Gregg Gilmore “The Improper Life of Bezellia Grove” I still cannot say enough good things about this book. I fell in love with Bezellia and my heart went out to her in all her struggles to grow up. Here again is my review, and the story behind her name, and my good fortune to meet the author Susan. Make sure to read the end of my post...a chance to win a book and a chance to win something really exciting from Susan!

Set in Nashville Tennessee, Bezellia Grove is a fifth generation Bezellia, and has much to live up to. Her family is what would be referred to as having old money and prestige in southern society. Her mother clearly loves having married into this status and wants her daughters to fall in line, but she also has a hard time fitting in and hides her drinking in lemonade and anything else she can find. Bezellia is a young teen in the 1960's when we meet her and she is struggling with finding that right place her mother so desperately desires. Her father is a prominent doctor who finds multiple reasons to work late or just stay away from home. Her younger sister Adelaide is sweet and yet appears immature and more childlike than her age. Bezellia comforts her and cares for her when her mother has no time. All her life Bezellia most remembers being raised by their cook and maid, Maizelle, and she also seeks comfort from Nathaniel, who helps at the house and drives her to school. The reader is led on a bumpy ride of Bezellia's teen years and beyond............learning that growing up is not easy for a girl who looks like a princess on the outside.

What a wonderful story and set in such a tumultuous time period. Author Susan Gregg Gilmore was born in Nashville, and has many memories and stories from this time and I believe this is one reason this book is so real and flows. Bezellia not only has normal teen angst and questions, she is dealing with her parents crumbling marriage, a sister that doesn't seem to grow up, and then she meets Samuel, Nathaniel's son, and her heart is torn. In the south and in the 60's a lovely white girl would not consider a relationship with a "colored" boy.

I love the way Gilmore weaves real history into this story, tales of Martin Luther King Jr, and the marches, music references to Johnny Cash and Loretta Lynn, and later stories of Gloria Steinem and the woman's rights movement. These are so subtly woven in it just gives it balance.
I can't rave enough about this book, it was such a wonderful read. I completely adore books set in the south, and I love the time frame of the 6o's and 70's too.

I started reading this book with the Southern Lit lovers on Goodreads, I hadn't heard about Bezellia or Susan Gregg Gilmore. I owe such a thank you to the group, because I was then able to fall in love with this book, and the author. As I wrote before I met Susan at the UCF Book Festival, and when we met we had the chance to talk about how she started writing this book. I hope she doesn't mind if I share.
Susan had moved back to Nashville with her family after 30 years, living in LA, and DC and other places, she was home again. One day while shopping for school supplies with her daughters, a woman introduced herself, mentioned Susan must be getting supplies for the same school, based on her list, and also new in town. She invited Susan to a dinner party...wow talk about your warm Southern welcome. When she went she met a woman named Bezellia, she thought wow...and said to her, "well that's interesting". The woman said," well if you think that's interesting then you should know I'm a 5th generation Bezellia". Susan told her that was indeed interesting, and a name and idea was born. Susan also had a profound experience looking for a home, on the same street she grew up on. While looking in the house, one where she had played as a child and had fond memories,she was surprised when the realtor showed them the basement. There were 6 cinder block bare rooms, and the basement door had a double lock, and Susan knew that the live in help had once lived in this basement. I loved these connections and how these coincidences helped her build a compelling and sensitive novel.

I am happy to say that my one short meeting with Susan has been the beginning of a really lovely friendship. She's continued to introduce me to new authors, and book bloggers and she's encouraged me to learn more about the subject I love most...books and writers.

I have two more exciting tidbits for you. Crown publishing has graciously offered 3 copies of "The Improper Life if Bezellia Grove" to give away to my blog followers. All you need to do is leave a comment before Sunday August 7, 2011 11pm and you'll be entered to win. The giveaway is open to US residents only.

Please also stop by Susan's Blog to read the Great Big Giveaway she is offering in October to Book Clubs, it also celebrates National Reading Group Month....oh and it includes Cake!!

Two weeks....really

2011-07-31T19:59:00.000-04:00

I can't believe it's been two weeks!!
There is just so much going on here.
Home from TX, then 2 days later off to Jacksonville for the UNF orientation with Caitie. We had a great time, she's totally in love with her school of choice and she's very excited she is now registered with her classes. She's got a great schedule too, I think.
So another busy week has gone by since then and I worked 28 hours, picking up an extra shift and loved getting those!!
Today was fabulous with us sleeping in, going out to lunch, on mom's earnings(yay for some extra $$ too) then picking up a few college dorm/apartment things at Bed Bath and Beyond and then getting Nick's football cleats too. We decided we would take in a movie and we all agreed on Captain America, and really it was good. We all enjoyed it.

I continue to really love working at B&N, each day brings in different types of readers and some return customers that I am getting to know my name and preferences. It's so enjoyable.
I will admit that working has cut into my reading time...ugh. When I'm home I still need to clean, cook, do laundry etc and with all kids home for summer, my week day time alone is zero. That will be changing soon, Nick starts school August 10. Adrienne moves into her apartment August 13, and Caitie moves into her dorm August 19. I'll let you know how that quiet is.
I hope to have some book reviews up soon, maybe a movie review or two, and some pictures too, of my girls moving out, and beginning new adventures.

Last Day in Texas

2011-07-16T20:32:00.000-04:00

I have had a fabulous mini vacation. The four days I spent with my parents were so good, my dad was moving really well and talking tons!! Between his Parkinson's disease and his Alzheimer's he doesn't always talk much, dad can become very quiet and he may just sit and watch TV, looking far away.    We talked about his childhood, and my dad started this project putting together an photo album of all his cars and campers/motor homes. I helped him make a typed up list of all his vehicles. His first car was a 1937 Oldsmobile, it was fun looking up pictures to compare bumpers and rear tail lights. The three of us went out to lunch,my nephew came along too. He just graduated from college, he's now living my my brother and sister in law and looking for a job, it's a hard time out there!

Mom and I did some shopping, she generously bought many things the girls need for college, she was so sweet!!

Last night we had a slumber party at my sister's house. My sister,niece,her bff, daughter and me,we ate pizza, snacks, and some drinks. We had a really good time. Today we all went to see Harry Potter, my other nephew and his family met us there.    I loved the ending, but there was a LOT of fighting.
We got some new air filters for Caitie's car and then went to the famous and delicious Rudy's BBQ for dinner.   Great Slogan on the back of the T shirt

"I didn't claw my way to the top of the food chain to eat Vegetables"

Ate some classic beef brisket and cream corn, peach cobbler and sweet tea....life is good!!

We are now at my nieces house, Caitie has all her stuff packed up. We're watching The Lincoln Lawyer on DVD, I was the only one who stayed up last night and watched it.

Tomorrow,Caitie and I head east for the LONG drive back to Florida in her little Honda CRV. It will be a long but good trip!!

I've been reading MAINE by J. Courtney Sullivan, this week,maybe I can finish more on the way home, family visits don't leave much time for reading. It's a wonderful book, looking forward to completing and reviewing.

Update: 52 letters, 52 weeks

2011-07-13T07:00:00.001-04:00

I really hate to write this update, I've fallen so behind, it's awful!!
I was doing well until May, I wrote 16 letters or notes, and I received 10 letters in return. I was loving the communication, the mail that was not just bills or junk...and then....Graduation and summer...ugh, shame shame shame, I'm at least 10 letters behind!!!

My plan, I'm jumping back in....I can only hope to catch up and finish with a full 52 letters written. With my new job at B&N I've purchased even more cute stationary and note cards. I even found a book on the bargain shelf titled THE ART OF THE HANDWRITTEN NOTE, it's a lovely guide to writing a note.

Have you undertaken any long term projects this year? How are you doing?

A Trip To Texas

2011-07-12T07:00:00.001-04:00

So by the time this is posted I'll be on my way to the airport and heading to Dallas to see my parents. I'll also be seeing daughter Caitie again, first time in 5 weeks!! Next week we'll be driving her recently gifted 1998 Honda CRV home to FL.

I'm so excited to spend 4 days with my folks then part of the weekend with my sister and her family. My parents are aging, if you're a long time follower you know this. I love them so much, and cherish each visit, knowing they will not be with us forever.

I've got a new book I'm taking, MAINE by J. Courtney Sullivan with me, and a loaded up Kindle too!!
Be well my friends......and let me know what you're reading these days. Take a look at Courtney's website, it's lovely and her book is getting many outstanding reviews. I can't wait.

College Books, a New Way to Save Money

2011-07-11T21:37:00.000-04:00

So as we approach the first semester of college for our girls, we know one thing for certain, books will be expensive...yikes.
Most of us who have been there remember paying high prices for new books, praying to used books, ones not to marked up, and then, the huge let down when we re-sold said books back to the bookstore, if lucky enough to have books that were being used another term.
Now along with buying books, new and used there is a new option on the table for college text books. Are you aware you can now rent college text books?
Campusbookrentals.com is a wonderful alternative to acquiring your college text books. They offer free shiping both ways, your student used the books, even allowing highlighting and then you just ship them back! I am so excited that I found out about this company, and when we get Caitie's class and book list in just 10 days, yes orientation is just around the corner, I am checking CampusBookRentals.com first.

Another thing I really admire about this company is the good deeds they are doing. They have partnered with Operation Smile in their 2011 Making a Difference Program. They have committed to donating enough money to cover 1000 life changing surgeries to help children born with cleft palates. A portion of each book rental fee will go towards this goal.

I hope you'll take the time to check into this company, CampusBookRentals.com may also be a good choice for you.

I was compensated for this blog post, but the opinions are all mine.

Book Review: The Time It Snowed In Puerto Rico

2011-07-06T13:57:00.000-04:00

A coming of age book set in 1961 Puerto Rico, this is the story of Verdita and how her life at 11 is changing and growing. We meet Verdita, happy and loved by her Mama and Papi, curious about what lies ahead in her life. She is most curious about The States, and everything that is different and in her opinion and dreams, wonderful about the United States. Verdita is curious about people who are blonde, white skinned, and much more. She dreams of milk that comes from cows, and not a box or a coconut. Her cousin comes to visit each summer from the States and he tells her of snow, and other common things she has no knowledge of. She is jealous of his experiences, but she would never tell him, so instead she often uses more Spanish so he doesn't know what she's saying.

Verdita is innocent and impressionable, and she is curious about the love she sees between her parents and the kind that is hushed and whispered about between her cousin Delia and her boyfriend. Are both these actions sinful, is her mother a puta? Verdita is confused and alone in her thoughts.

I really can't tell you how sweet and wonderful this book is. I "met" the author, Sarah McCoy, on twitter and I knew I had to read this book. The story is an honest look back at a time of great change in Puerto Rico, talk of becoming as state or part of the U.S., the excitement when President Kennedy came for a visit and the innocence of a young girl. It's a short lovely read, and one that you will hope doesn't end. Even now, a week after I finished this book, I am thinking of Verdita, and what exciting and new discoveries she is about to make.

A quick read, I give this book a 5 out of 5 stars, I recommend this book to anyone who loves coming of age books and to older teens.

Sarah McCoy will have a second novel THE BAKER'S DAUGHTER, published in January 2012, you can learn more about her and her books at SarahMcCoy.com

Looking back at June

2011-06-29T12:12:00.000-04:00

Can you believe the month of June is nearly gone. I commented on Sunday that my birthday is in 6 months, which also means that other holiday, Christmas, is in 6 months. I can't think that far ahead, right now I'm doing good living week to week and planning for July.
I've had a good month. I'm in my 3rd week of my new job....and I really am enjoying it. The people I work with are very pleasant, as a cashier I'm mostly alone, but I do get out in the store some, I talk to the other book sellers, and I adore talking with customers. I try to be helpful when I can, I am excited when I can discuss a book with a customer.
In two weeks I'll be going to Dallas to spend a few days with my parents, and a day playing with my sister and her family and then driving back to FL with Caitie!! Yes I've missed my Cait as she interns for the 2nd summer with my niece. So the driving back part, interesting. Dawn has given Caitie her old car, a 1998 Honda CRV, yep with over 250,000 miles on it. It is a Honda, so we are just hoping to get it back here, and Caitie can take it to school and with any luck it lasts a couple more years and everyone is happy. It was a very nice gesture. She is giving Adrienne money, of course A is thrilled with this prospect, as she was unable to find summer work.
So on the topic of Adrienne and work, she did not find a job, but she has been very consistent and diligent (are those the same thing?), about going to the gym to do her work outs. She received a long schedule from her college softball coach and that has been keeping her busy in the mornings. She has been helping out more around the house, so I'm trying not to fuss too much about her gasoline usage, as we are still paying for it.
I believe it's difficult to teach our teens about money and responsibility, and it's our own fault for this issue. We've somehow spoiled our kids, playing expensive travel sports with the goal of securing a college scholarship to play more was a huge factor for us. Now that we've done that it's almost like Adrienne didn't take us seriously when we discussed her getting a job. I think our expectations for next summer are loud and clear, time will tell.
Adrienne also just got her roommate assignment from her coach. Four softball players will be living in one 2 bedroom/2bath apartment. Her roomie is a friend from travel ball, and of the other two, one is a freshman the other a sophomore pitcher. Now they can coordinate who has what, furniture for their den/and dining room. Things they will need in the kitchen etc. We've got most of the bedroom/bath stuff bought...yay for some up front work.

So I'm off for now....July is rushing at us, and I'm looking forward to it!!!

Book Review: Here, Home, Hope

2011-06-24T20:36:00.000-04:00

From Goodreads: Kelly Mills Johnson becomes restless in her thirty-ninth year. An appetite for more forces her to take stock of her middling middle-American existence and her neighbors' seemingly perfect lives. Her marriage to a successful attorney has settled into a comfortable routine, and being the mother of two adorable sons has been rewarding. But Kelly's own passions lie wasted. She eyes with envy the lives of her two best friends, Kathryn and Charlotte, both beautiful, successful businesswomen who seem to have it all. Kelly takes charge of her life, devising a midlife makeover plan.

From page one, Kelly's witty reflections, self-deprecating humor, and clever tactics in executing that plan—she places Post-it notes all over her house and car—will have readers laughing out loud. The next instant, however, they might rant right along with Kelly as her commitment to a sullen, anorexic teenager left on her doorstep tries her patience or as she deflects the boozy advances of a divorced neighbor. Readers will need to keep the tissue box handy, too, as Kelly repairs the damage she inflicted on a high school friend; realizes how deeply her husband, Patrick, understands and loves her; and ultimately grows into a woman empowered by her own blend of home and career.
Here, Home, Hope will surely appeal to readers of chick lit and other women's fiction titles who are ready to transition into something new in their own life.

My Thoughts: I wanted to enjoy this book very much, the author Kaira Rouda befriended me on
Goodreads and I actually asked her for an opportunity to read and review her first novel. The character of Kelly has a very good life, a loving husband, two sons, and the kind of disposable income that allows her lunches out, and shopping sprees. She does feel unfulfilled, and a bit lost. Her actions to correct this start her making notes, post it notes to be exact, of Things to Change or T2C. Unfortunately the references to these T2C become a bit awkward and over used. The lives of her best friends are falling apart, and oddly enough there is much crossing of lives and loves. I can't put an exact finger on the timeline of this book, 2 weeks, a month, but in actuality so very much happens that it seems unreal, contrived a bit. I couldn't believe so many good and bad things could happen to one group of friends in such a short time.
I think the writing is on par,her use of current language and technology is appropriate. The concept of empowering women is strong and well done. The actual dialogue didn't always ring true for me.
This book was just ok for me a 2 out of 5 stars. If this type of women's fiction appeals to you, certainly give it a try, Kindle has it available for $2.48.
The author Kaira Rouda has an amazing entrepreneurial history of her own. You can read more about her on her website.

Work, summer, kids, etc

2011-06-21T12:13:00.000-04:00

It's a busy time around here, but I had to say, it's mostly good stuff!

I have worked 4 days at the new job, book selling at B&N, and I really like it. My first job has been as a cashier, which I picked up easily and now beyond a few questions here and there I'm good to go. I have been working on learning the computer system to locate books, and train to work at the customer service desk. The other people whom I work with are so very nice, and I like the customer interaction.

Summer is in full swing, my kids having finished school a month ago. Adrienne didn't find a summer job, and now with @ 7 weeks until she moves off to college I think the chances are fairly slim. She is now doing some extra work here at home to earn some gas $$ and privileges. She does have her work out routine from her college coach, and that's keeping her busy. She went last week with the rest of the freshman softball players and met with counselors and the coach and chose her classes. She'll know her exact schedule by the end of the week.

Nick's activity level has slowed down since last week, and now I'm wishing he had more to do, because he's moody and whiny here at home...ha ha!

So I'm not working today, and I need to do some housework, prepare a good dinner and find some time to read, I counted, I have 11 books on my shelves that I've won or been sent by authors. I really need to find more reading time.

Have a great day friends!!

Big News

2011-06-13T23:29:00.000-04:00

I Got a JOB!!!!
I am so excited, and this Barnes & Noble pictures above is the one I begin working in tomorrow.
While imperfect hours, retail is something I know very well. I am going to be working part time, but selling something I dearly love and can't wait to share with others. I love books, and reading, and meandering around book stores.
So wish me luck on this new adventure, I've been home working raising kids, keeping us all together for 10.5 years, and it's time for me to get back out there!!!

Friday

2011-06-11T00:45:00.000-04:00

Ok so technically this is Saturday early am, like 12:30am, but I'm still up so it's my Friday re-cap.

I did something short but fun today with my kids. Caitie announced she needed a black v-neck tee to go with a new skirt, so we headed to one of the very few stores we have in tiny t-ville, the JCP, and we looked around. We not only found the infamous trend setting, outfit completing tee, Nick found a tank top, Adrienne found a polo, and we got Kevin a new blue polo, a shade that is in both girls' college logos. An early small Father's day gift they could all be here to give him. I was all aglow from using two $10 coupons, and saving money!! My new favorite thing is using coupons and saving!!

Then we dropped by Something Sweet, click on that link, and that is what the showcase looked like today. Turtle cupcakes, strawberry, red velvet too. Coconut brownies, and eclairs, and more, the case was much less full at 3pm, but we managed to pick up a few goodies...oh oh so good. We thankfully only go by a couple of times a month or less.

I'm reading a short story on my Kindle, something interesting from Barbara Delinsky, I really enjoy her work.

We grilled steaks for dinner, and had a nice meal together to send Caitie off for her 5 week internship.
Enjoy the weekend my friends, after the airport good byes, Kevin and I are going out for breakfast and then going to watch Adrienne play some softball, she's guest playing for another team....good times!!

Book Review: Exposure by Therese Fowler

2011-06-09T20:48:00.000-04:00

Exposure is the story of Anthony and Amelia, two teens who have a love for theater, music and each other. They attend a private school, where Anthony's mom also teaches. While caught up in their passion for each other, they decide to not just explore their sexuality, but to photograph it. Taking pictures might be dangerous, but add in cell phones and emails, and you open up a very contemporary problem happening to many teens today. The modern day Romeo and Juliet have been hiding their relationship from all but a few close friends and Anthony's mom. Amelia's father does not approve of her dating, so imagine his surprise when he accidentally finds naked pictures of Anthony on her laptop. He is a wealthy and influential local businessman and he uses his power to to advance what he believes is just punishment for Anthony. He turns a silent ear on his daughter's pleas and what ensues is an out of control media and mob mentality for a school and small town.

Therese Fowler has written such a deep and honest story in this book. Most parents of a teen in this time of technology has thought of this. Teens have immature thought processes and like many politicians (ha ha) don't think about the long term consequences of those naked pictures and sending them over the internet. Our laws and statutes haven't caught up with technology and the questions of crime, pornography, and sexual predators loom over these issues like a dark cloud.

Fowler has shared that the idea for Exposure was born of her own experiences when her 19 year old son was arrested for what is commonly known as "sexting". She was surprised that this crime fell under the heading of distributing pornographic material and if found guilty he might be forever labeled as a sex offender, and have to register.

This book was so very well written, a love story, a story of two families in crisis, a cautionary tale of sharing personal pictures and more. As I was reading I was unable to envision the ending Fowler had planned for this book, it took many turns and the last 70 pages were riveting! I love a story that keeps me up late.

I'm giving this book a 5 out of 5 stars, and I recommend it to readers who like contemporary fiction. I believe this would make a wonderful book club or group read. My friend Judy lent me this book, and I'm mailing it back tomorrow, she plans to share it with her 16 year old daughter, also a wonderful target audience for this one.

From Teen to Young Adult

2011-06-08T22:29:00.000-04:00

     Today the girls arrived safely back home. Their maturity in handling this little five day get away is admirable. What more can a parent ask for, responsible, respectful, and they had fun.
     What steps do we as parents take that lead us to this place, this place where our children are ready and eager to move out? I'm not sure we could replicate this journey, and the lessons we tried to impart over the last nearly 18 years, but while imperfect, we must have done something right.
     I'm finishing a book tonight, Exposure by Therese Fowler. I hope to review in a day or two, but this book is a look into what can go wrong when two teens text naked and suggestive pictures to each other. All it takes is one parent to believe his child is being exploited and it's going to get ugly. This books is amazing!
     How did we avoid conflicts like this? I have no idea, because honestly bad things do happen to good kids. We did keep an eye on their friendships and where they went. Yes honestly one of my girls was very involved with one boy for over 3 years, and I am sure that her relationship would be questionable to many parents, but until you have been there, don't judge. I think we avoided drunken parties, drugs and pregnancies because we were open, talked about possible scenarios before they were realities and we listened. Sometimes listening is so much more important than the talking and lectures that a parent can give.
I'm feeling rather thankful tonight, but things are busy here too. In just 3 days Caitie is flying off to Dallas again to summer intern , second summer at the civil engineering firm my niece Dawn works for. Adrienne continues to seek out a summer job, and she is doing her very intense summer work out for her college softball team. She should be in amazing shape by August!!
It's 10:30pm, time to finish reading and maybe be in bed before 2am...summer schedule is killing me. Please be thinking of me tomorrow........the interview at B&N is at 3pm. I'll keep you posted!!

Absence

2011-06-07T23:27:00.000-04:00

I hadn't realized how long it's been since I blogged.
Schools is out for Nick, his last day was May 23, and so we are in full summer mode at our home. I'm in a good place, I seem to be more relaxed since graduation and those festivities have ended.
I had a little escape last week to Tampa, I visited my same sweet friends Howard and Sherry that I always rely on when in the Tampa area. They were here for the girl's graduation and I told them I was going to need an escape soon. I ran off on Tuesday and had 2 days and 2 nights with no real demands. I slept in, ate too much and got to relax.
I also had the privilege of visiting with their daughter Natalie and her five month old son Tyler. What a sweet boy he is, she promised to send me some pictures she took, mine were only on my iPhone, so not so good.
For the past few days my girls have been away on a little vacation. Kevin's parents owned a Time Share @ an hour south of us, right on the Indian River. Since their passing the brothers have shared it, and we paid the fees and have it this year, we let the girls take a few friends down. It's a 2 bedroom, 1 bath condo. The complex has a wonderful pool and is close to the water, a short drive to the beaches on the Atlantic and in a quiet community. The girls have had a good time from the few calls and texts we've received. I've tried hard not to hover, oddly enough Kevin has been more anxious to check up on them. I just keep chanting to myself "they will be on their own in 11 weeks, they can do this".

Nick has been on the go since school let out. I've written before that our home is boring, no pool, no media room, no nearby lake to fish in, no friends all over the neighborhood. I've accepted this, and I'm thankful that Nick is so outgoing and has a ton of friends that like to have him over...ha ha. He has spent almost as many nights out of our house as in it! He's gone to two dances at a community center, he's been to the new skate park twice. He's been fishing a few times too.
Me, well I've been reading and looking for a job. I have my second interview on Thursday at Barnes and Noble. I feel torn, I love books, love book stores and well I also know the downside to retail work. I was a manager for JCP for 14 years, and other stores prior to that. I am looking for something PT, and this does fit that need. I will keep you posted!
I'm also spending much time on some new blogs, blogs written by authors, and dedicated book blogs, and twitter, I found it again, and I am almost stalking a few writers and bloggers I love, someone tell me if I'm getting creepy.
Ending this with some George Gershwin lyrics from Porgy and Bess.........and sung by my friend Howard to his first grandson last week, as he was snuggling him down for a nap. Enjoy the season.

Summertime,
And the livin' is easy
Fish are jumpin'
And the cotton is high

Your daddy's rich
And your mamma's good lookin'
So hush little baby
Don't you cry

Parents

2011-05-25T15:50:00.000-04:00

My parents came to FL for the big graduation. My dad is now 86, my mom 83, and they've slowed down so much. I am so thankful that my sister was able to fly with them and and be around to help them get around.

My dad has Parkinson's Disease, and he moves much slower now. He has some level of dementia too, and is quiet more than not. He doesn't hear well, and has macular degeneration so his central vision is completely gone in one eye, and nearly in the other. His quality of life has been greatly diminished, but still my dad tries to be involved, to appear that he is hearing all that is going on and he wants to much to be a part of big family milestones. I am so proud of him for trying so hard.
My mom is in better health for the most party, sure she's slower, sees not so well, and has her own moments where clear decision making seems not so sharp, but she is still the person I grew up with. It amazes me how she can seem to never forget anything wrong I ever did....please let me forget those things and focus on the accomplishments my children have.

Then there is my sister, 12 years my senior, but so very close to my heart. Since I reached adulthood she and I have developed a most dear relationship. She has the wisdom of being a mother to two now grown children, and she shares that with me. She has compassion like no one else I know. She is so good to my parents, I am always amazed by what she is able to give them in time and patience. I always wish I had more one on one time with her, and we joke about having a secret vacation together. Below is Ouida, my wonderful sister and Kevin, sorry but I think I caught her mid word....often talking, that is her.

Once again, it was a great week............and now it's good to be back to normal.

The Week in Review....whew!!

2011-05-20T22:14:00.001-04:00

Sunday was Baccalaureate, beautiful, peaceful and inspiring. After we went to a local wing place for dinner with many Seniors and parents. Above are my girls with another set of twins

Nick standing on a chair with two gorgeous sisters, Hallie and Macy

Trying to leave and playing around!

When we got home it was time for gift #1

New lap tops!!

Monday my parents and sister flew in, and it was so great to have them here. We cooked dinner at home, and the girls got things for their rooms in college as gifts from us. We like to spread gifts out, more fun!

Tuesday the girls had a half day of school, and then grad practice and a BBQ. Before school Kevin and I were able to have breakfast with the Sunrise Rotary Club where Caitie was awarded a scholarship. Great start to the day!! Sarah is the girl in jeans, and she is also Caitie's future roommate at UNF.

Tuesday night's gifts were from their Aunt Ouida, t shirts and personalized laundry bags

We gave Adrienne a new flat iron and Caitie charms for her bracelet. Right now they share hair appliances.
Wednesday we had a full day, prepping for our party after graduation, getting ready for graduation, Kevin helped set up for Project Graduation.
At 7pm we were in the stands and the Graduates walked in. I felt choked up but didn't cry. I think I just kept focusing on the happiness of the event, all that had let up to this moment, and the very bright future my girls are going to have. So here are a few shots

picture above courtesy of Florida Today

We came home, hosted a Dessert Buffet for about 40 of our friends and this was the center piece!!

The front of the cake represents their HS, the back their colleges.
Now after all that I collapsed!!
No, really we went out to brunch on Thursday as my family flew home to TX, and we picked up the house and relaxed. Saturday and Sunday are the big grad party days, so we'll be very busy!!
Thanks for reading if you made it this far!!!

Book Review: The Weird Sisters by Eleanor Brown

2011-05-13T23:28:00.001-04:00

“See, we love each other. We just don’t like each other very much.”

This debut novel by Eleanor Brown was so surprising, so different, so witty, I can't wait to share it with you.
We meet the Andreas sisters. Named for characters from Shakespeare, their father a professor of the Bard, they are Rosalind, Bianca, and Cordelia, or Rose, Bean and Cordy. Now grown but home again, using the guise of supporting their parents as their mother has a major health issue. However the sisters move home to find some sort of comfort, stability as they are all hiding their own shortfalls and errors. Rose is in love and engaged, but she's not getting tenure in her college position, and her fiance is going to England. Bean has been embezzling from her employer, and when discovered she is quickly shown the door. Cordy has been on the road, living here and there, sleeping with men and moving on, only now she's pregnant.
Books are an integral part of the Andreas family, and Rose is obsessed with making sure books aren't left open straining their spines, she is forever putting bookmarks in books.

One of the best parts of this book is that it's written in first person plural, and amazing style I couldn't remember reading before. It's as if the sisters are as one, yet separate. The sisters are like most families, related but unique. I am one of 3 sisters so I can relate. I see myself most like one of the sisters, but I'm not saying, maybe you can guess after you've read the book.
The sisters fled the small town of their youth, searching for the answers to the questions we all have when maturing, and yet they never expect to find the answer at home, together again. Their father speaks mostly in Shakespeare lines, but there is no need to have an intricate knowledge to relate to the story. It actually brought me back to reading many of his works in my earlier life.
I love this first novel from Eleanor Brown, and I had the opportunity to meet her last month. She had me when she mentioned rewarding herself by going to the Dairy Queen!!!
I recommend this book to anyone with siblings, and anyone who doesn't but would like to see the workings of three sisters, the adversity, the support, the love.
I am giving this book 5 out of 5 stars.

Mother's Day

2011-05-08T20:43:00.000-04:00

While this could be considered a Hallmark holiday by some, I honestly believe it's a day to honor a person that lives much of her life thankless.
I know when I was little I thought my mom could do anything. She was an amazing southern cook, nothing fancy, but good home cooling. She could bake amazing pies and the best cookies ever. I was the youngest of 4 children and I loved when I was little and stayed home with her, and my sisters and brother would come home after school, and we'd greet them with fresh cookies and tales of our day. My mom wasn't perfect, she sometimes had a quick temper, and she believed in a good spanking when you'd broken a rule. So while I have memories of being reprimanded I have many more of a happy childhood. Then I became a moody, opinionated, ungrateful teenager, and my relationship with my mom changed dramatically. I can now look back and say she was right about so very much, and I was wrong and oh so naive. It takes so much longer to grow up, to come to those epiphanies and to thankful again.
Now my mom is 83 years old , and I am not a child in any physical way, but I will always be her baby, and I love when she sometimes still introduces me as her baby daughter. I live 1000 miles from her, and I miss the daily ups and downs and seeing her often. I haven't lived in the same state as her since 1983, and we are able to still keep in touch, to communicate and share and love each other. My love and respect for her has evolved, as much in life does, but I am so happy to have her in my life.
Wishing each of you reading a Happy Mother's Day.........and may our evolution of loving and learning never stop.

Saturday Wrap

2011-05-07T10:29:00.000-04:00

This has been a good week, but busy.
Adrienne had her College Algebra final on Tuesday, and she did very well, she finished her class with a 94 average!!! She took two classes at the CC and both with move to Seminole State next year, starting with 6 credit hours both A's is a very good thing!!
Caitie took her AP Calculus exam on Wednesday, and she is happy to have that done. She is hoping to have passed both AB and BC, but even passing one and taking that credit to UNF puts her just one step ahead. I wish I knew why it takes until July to receive the grades...I mean really in this day and age?
Nick had an ortho appointment on Wednesday and we may really be at the end of his braces...going back June 6th....it's been almost 3 years now!!!

This little event is happening in 11 days...yes we are counting down by days now!!
Today Kevin and I are going shopping. Beyond the laptops we plan to buy the girls, we are looking for a few small gifts for the girls, things they need for their dorm or apartment, things they want, you get the idea. We also have to buy a million gifts for their friends....don't let anyone tell you this time of year is a breeze. it is a costly, insanely busy time. The upside is that we are so filled with pride and joy, it takes the edge off a bit!!
Tomorrow is our church's Baccalaureate Mass. All the Seniors in our Parish are invited to attend, they dress in caps and gowns, a little bit is said about each one, and it is followed by a breakfast. Caitie is doing one of the readings. We are very proud!

I'm reading a beautiful book, the cover alone is enough to draw one in, I mean really don't you want to read this book? I'm really enjoying it and I hope to have a review up for you soon.
Have a glorious Saturday!!

Book Review : Left Neglected

2011-05-03T16:29:00.000-04:00

Left Neglected by Lisa Genova
Published by: Gallery Books a Division of Simon & Schuster, Inc.
322 pages

Lisa Genova takes her readers on another lesson of neurological anomalies with this book,following Still Alice, which was about early onset Alzheimer's disease. This time the topic is a brain injury referred to as left neglect. Sarah Nickerson is a high powered human resources VP, and wife and mother to three. She and her husband Bob work in Boston and live in an affluent suburb. Sarah is always busy, rushing rushing, and like so many of us multi-tasking, only one day as she is driving and using her phone, she takes her eye of the road for one minute, and she has a terrible accident. Somehow winning the game of rock, paper, scissors will never be the same.
Sarah wakes in the hospital, and though the car is totaled she is alive, however there was an injury to her head, some bleeding and it had to be drained. Sarah feels her head partially shaved and stapled. When she complains of not seeing food or flatware on her tray the nurse knows there is more going on. This is when her Dr explains to her and Bob that an injury to the right hemisphere can leave neurological damage, left neglect, where basically a patient has no awareness of the left side of their body, or anything to their left. This is a real condition.
As you can imagine, this leaves so many unanswered questions, will Sarah recover, what can she be taught how to do? Sarah spends many weeks in the hospital and rehab, and just as in real life she is sent home, not because she is 100% capable, but because her insurance has paid all it will.
This journey of finding her left is long, her mother re-enters her life, Sarah and she have never been close since a tragic accident when Sarah was a girl. Living within their financial means Sarah and Bob must both work to keep the standard of living they enjoy, a nice home, a vacation home, multiple activities for the kids, a part time nanny, etc.
I started this book and didn't really like Sarah very much, she had a very good life, job, family, had it all, and she seemed to appreciate things for the wrong reason, and I felt sad for her. I started to like her more when she realized she was going to need help, when she began to see how she had missed so much in her life.
I loved how respectfully the topic of this brain injury were handled, Genova is an ace at research and getting the facts right. The mother daughter relationship was handled very well. It is one of the most complicated of them all, to me, as when we grow into adults we have to change that bond some, and they are not always smooth transitions. Sarah and her mother had their own complications, and these felt very sincere to me. I think I may have read this book too soon after her first book, because honestly it paled in comparrison in the quality of the writing, the story and empathy it evoked from me.
I felt like the some things were written as just plain silly, like the names of their children, Charlie, Lucy and Linus, I mean really that was sort of odd. Towards the end of the book things fell into place a bit too easy for Sarah, I can't say more or it gives too much away.
I like this book, I would recommend it to any of my friends, especially those who enjoy books about recovering from injuries. I gave it a 3 out of 5 stars, and I look forward to the next book Lisa Genova writes, as I know it will not only draw me in, but teach me something.

Sunday Peace

2011-05-01T01:17:00.000-04:00

It's very early Sunday morning, almost 1am. I am a night owl by nature, I always enjoy my quiet time, but late at night is the best, I seem to get a second wind and have all this energy and thoughts of creative endeavors.
Saturday morning I ordered invites to the grad party from Tiny Prints...have you used them? They are so creative and sweet, I chose a simple design. I considered just using e-vites but I love holding something in my hands. Others must agree with me because in the mail today we received a grad party invite from Tiny Prints. I showed the guest list and menu to the girls,they approved. Sodas were on sale at CVS and we bought several. I picked up some cute grad napkins at Target. I bought a card and Mother's Day gift for my mom. I am looking for unique grad gifts for several HS seniors and also my nephew who is graduating from college. I like a small gift and then maybe some cash or a GC. Any suggestions?

I feel good, I feel like I got something done.

Teaser for books I'm reading or have bought recently.

The first two I am finishing very soon, and the other two I hope to complete in short order......reviews soon, and what I can say is each of these authors is generous and kind and so eager to reach new readers. Look for them....no disappointments I promise.

Now time to read and then sleep....as Sunday morning will arrive in a blink of an eye, and church and the remainder of the day will be upon me.

Do what makes you happy, and share your joy and smile with the world.

The Spinning in My Life

2011-04-30T00:42:00.000-04:00

For the most part, my days are filled and busy, but peaceful too. I am able to have my days to myself, the kids and hubby off to school and work. I manage to keep the house clean, the laundry done, and food in the house and on the table. I make sure the youngest gets where he needs to be on time, and remind everyone of their commitments, because that's the kind of anal mom and wife I am. I do all this and still have time to blog/play online and read....ah the reading, where would I be without it.
Only now, I've been distracted, I've been doing prep work for the upcoming graduation. I've been mentally preparing for my family arriving in FL. We are having a very small, casual get together after the graduation. Snacks, cake, treats. It's just me, but I've already started thinking about the little details...I know...give it a rest.
We have 19 days until graduation...that is all, 19 small days. 17 days until family arrives. Announcements are in the mail, the girls will indeed graduate, they are making fantastic grades and have worked so very hard. I've got more pictures to send for Project Graduation, and posters to either have made or make myself(rest assured I'll be finding some way to have someone else print those babies!).
So the things that are going on are grabbing my reading time. Of course my life is bombarded with wonderful new books!! I mean I've won a book this week I'm dreaming of reading. I've been sent a couple of books to read and review and I've bought some too..........a never ending love affair with a steady stream of great books!
So come on 19 days....let me plan and do....and squeeze in a little reading...which is what I'm off to do before I sleep.

Y and Z

2011-04-30T00:15:00.000-04:00

Yellow Zebra!!

Sorry I want this to be over. Admittedly I did not spend time every day seriously pondering the letter and words I could come up with. Now at the end....I want it to be over!!

Fun but sort of tedious by the end.......really.

Xylophone

2011-04-28T17:44:00.000-04:00

Because I'm anal, and worry about senseless things I've been thinking of the letter Z in this little blogging nonsense all month.

I thought of it early on, and I will now present to you my favorite moment with a Zylophone....and it's from the movie Grease! Do you remember the actress Dody Goodman, she was the secretary, Blanche, to Eve Arden's Principal McGee. I loved how she used the xylophone to ring in the morning announcements. Remember when she got carried away? Great movie
So there ya have it...my X

W is for Wordless Wednesday

2011-04-27T06:00:00.000-04:00

V is for Very Enjoyable Book Review: The Improper Life of Bezellia Grove

2011-04-25T22:54:00.000-04:00

Set in Nashville Tennessee, Bezellia Grove is a fifth generation Bezellia, and has much to live up to. Her family is what would be referred to as having old money and prestige in southern society. Her mother clearly loves having married into this status and wants her daughters to fall in line, but she also has a hard time fitting in and hides her drinking in lemonade and anything else she can find. Bezellia is a young teen in the 1960's when we meet her and she is struggling with finding that right place her mother so desparately desires. Her father is a prominent doctor who finds multiple reasons to work late or just stay away from home. Her younger sister Adelaide is sweet and yet appears immature and more childlike than her age. Bezellia comforts her and cares for her when her mother has no time. All her life Bezellia most remembers being raised by their cook and maid, Maizelle, and she also seeks comfort from Nathaniel, who helps at the house and drives her to school. The reader is led on a bumpy ride of Bezellia's teen years and beyond............learning that growing up is not easy for a girl who looks like a princess on the outside.

What a wonderful story and set in such a tumultuous time period. Author Susan Gregg Gilmore was born in Nashville, and has many memories and stories from this time and I believe this is one reason this book is so real and flows. Bezellia not only has normal teen angst and questions, she is dealing with her parents crumbling marriage, a sister that doesn't seem to grow up, and then she meets Samuel, Nathaniel's son, and her heart is torn. In the south and in the 60's a lovely white girl would not consider a relationship with a "colored" boy.

I love the way Gilmore weaves real history into this story, tales of Martin Luther King Jr, and the marches, music references to Johnny Cash and Loretta Lynn, and later stories of Gloria Steinem and the woman's rights movement. These are so subtly woven in it just gives it balance.
I can't rave enough about this book, it was such a wonderful read. I completely adore books set in the south, and I love the time frame of the 6o's and 70's too.

I started reading this book with the Southern Lit lovers on Goodreads, I hadn't heard about Bezellia or Susan Gregg Gilmore. I owe such a thank you to the group, because I was then able to fall in love with this book, and the author. As I wrote before I met Susan at the UCF Book Festival, and when we met we had the chance to talk about how she started writing this book. I hope she doesn't mind if I share.
Susan had moved back to Nashville with her family after 30 years, living in LA, and DC and other places, she was home again. One day while shopping for school supplies with her daughters, a woman introduced herself, mentioned Susan must be getting supplies for the same school, based on her list, and also new in town. She invited Susan to a dinner party...wow talk about your warm Southern welcome. When she went she met a woman named Bezellia, she thought wow...and said to her, "well that's interesting". The woman said," well if you think that's interesting then you should know I'm a 5th generation Bezellia". Susan told her that was indeed interesting, and a name and idea was born. Susan also had a profound experience looking for a home, on the same street she grew up on. While looking in the house, one where she had played as a child and had fond memories,she was surprised when the realtor showed them the basement. There were 6 cinder block bare rooms, and the basement door had a double lock, and Susan knew that the live in help had once lived in this basement. I loved these connections and how these coincidences helped her build a compelling and sensitive novel. Please check out Susan's website and blog, she is an amazing author and a kind woman.
I gave this book 4.5 out of 5 stars, and I recommend it to all my friends, especially those who love Southern Lit.

Unusually Uninspired

2011-04-25T17:15:00.000-04:00

That's my U.....I just have nada, nothing, zilch for a U post.....ha ha

So I will tell you that prom was great!!! I promise to update with pictures:).
Today was payday, so I painfully sent all our money out to those we owe. Why is our water bill so high? Think 3 teenagers need to be that clean?
That's it, I have a wonderful book review to write, but it didn't start with a U, so I'm going to just write it, and share....ABC's be damned!!!!

Easter and my T is for .............

2011-04-24T06:00:00.001-04:00

May your Easter be peaceful and Joyous.
T is for Treats, and I hope you have something as yummy as the ones I picked up!!

S is for Siblings

2011-04-23T06:00:00.000-04:00

I'm reading (listening to really) a wonderful book,The Weird Sisters, by Eleanor Brown. I love this book, it's quirky and yet really hits home. Three grown sisters return home to help their parents when their mom is diagnosed with breast cancer, they really come home to also help themselves. I have been thinking so much about my own relationships with my sisters, and also the brother.
My story is likely much less entertaining than the NYT bestseller I am reading, but it has deep secrets and great joy and tragedy.
I have two sisters, Ouida and Bonita, yes our names all rhyme, and one brother, Chuck. They are all 12, 11 and 6 years older than me, I am the youngest and all too often still referred to as the baby, and yes I am 51.
I want to much love each of them but these relationships they have had some divisions. My sister Ouida and I are very close, we talk often, she lives close to my aging parents and she is the rock of the siblings, she is the peacemaker and the caregiver. She has supported me through raising kids and our aging parents. She calls me when she needs an ear or a shoulder to cry on. We give and take very well. We both read and share books we've loved. She would be the kind of woman I would friend if she were not my sister.
My sister Bonita lives 3000 miles from me, and I last saw her about 7 years ago I think. We have very little in common, her life has been a series of dramas and I can't understand some of her choices. When I was young, I saw her as the fun sister, she was a bit wild, and ran free. Now she is a poster child for what happens when you don't really grow up. I do care for her, but at the same time I find it easier to have little to do with her.
My brother is another story all together. No matter my age or my accomplishments I am always going to be his little sister, and I am not mature, or worth much of anything. He has antagonized me greatly over the last 20 years. Honestly as a child he picked on me so much, it's a wonder I had any respect for him at all. I have tried to love him, and his family. He has three children, and while I love them, I have little contact with them. His wife is good to my parents, which I thank her for, but with me she is selfish and cold. I fear my relationship with him will be lost when my parents are gone. While it makes me sad there is little I can do.
So siblings, love them? hate them? have to admit to them...ha ha,they are with us in many unique forms.
Tell me how you are blessed or stuck.

Quiet Reflection

2011-04-22T06:00:00.001-04:00

I think today is a good day for Quiet Reflection. I've never understood why we Christians call it Good Friday, as it is a mournful day as we believe Christ was crucified.
So Q and R are for quiet reflection, and I plan to spend some time today doing just that.
Wishing everyone Peace.

UCF Book Festival

2011-04-21T13:04:00.002-04:00

I've already teased you with the fact I attended the UCF Book Festival this past Saturday. In one word, it was FABULOUS! I have to thank Susan Gregg Gilmore for telling me she was coming to the festival. I had just finished her second book The Improper Life of Bezellia Grove, and wrote to her praising the book. When she mentioned the festival I was ecstatic, honestly this university is 30 minutes from my house in East Orlando, of course I'd be there. Then Susan suggested meeting for coffee and I was sold.
We began our morning at Barnes & Noble, and had the best chat. Susan was so open and warm, while I was in awe of sitting with a published author she was just so kind. It was just like meeting any online friend whom you share a love of books and chat about them and your family and much more. I'm sure I was all gushy, asking about how Bezellia was born, and it is a great story. I showed her pictures of my kids and she never appeared bored..ha ha.
We went over to the UCF Arena and found the room where she was to have her first panel discussion and we tried to drop into the Bloggers Room, but it was empty. Can you imagine, there was a suite set up just for bloggers! I think the plan was to blog live and chat with authors, but the bloggers were doing what I was, sitting in on panel discussions and meeting authors.

Shellie, Sussan, and Maribeth

The first panel topic was titled "Love, Life, and Laughter: Inspiring Women Writers" and the panel included Susan Gregg Gilmore, Marybeth Whalen(The Mailbox) and Shellie Tomlinson(Suck Your Stomach In and Put Some Color On). Immediately I could see these three women could dish about why they had written with a woman's voice, and with passion. The topics ranged from what drove them to choose their main characters and what carried them through. I can't wait to read Maribeth and Shellie's books. Following the forum the ladies went to the main floor of the Festival and signed books and chatted with me.

I was fortunate that Shellie Tomlinson had a copy of her newest book with her and she was so generous to give it to me an sign it. Sue Ellen's Girl Ain't Fat, She Just Weighs Heavy...love that title. It's a series of essays that a southern girl or a lover of the South can really relate to.
Susan just let me tag along with her to her next panel this one titled "Conflicting Loyalties:Cross-racial Relationships. Susan spoke along with Dolen Perkins-Valdez(Wench) and Nina Revoyr (Wingshooters) This discussion could have become very divided but the authors kept on track and discussed the topics of masters and their mistress slaves, the hired black help in 1950's and 60's Tennessee, and the mixed race child growing up for a time in the northern plains and the prejudice she endured. Id just recently heard of Dolen's book from a friend and I'm now very anxious to read it.
Once again to the book signing, and I picked up a copy of Susan's first book, Looking for Salvation at the Dairy Queen, and she graciously signed it. Susan and I talked a big more and we hugged and said goodbye with promises to keep in touch. She was off to catch her flight home to Chattanooga.
I went to one more panel discussion titled "Family Secrets". I was a minute or two late, and as I located a seat, I was excited to see I was sitting by Shellie and Maribeth, it's exciting to see authors supporting each other, as they too wanted to listen and learn. Now family secrets are so intriguing to me, I mean we all have them right? The authors on this panel were Lori Roy(Bent Road), Susan Hubbard(Walking on Ice) and Eleanor Brown(The Weird Sisters). I am currently listening to The Weird Sisters on audio,really great, so I was really interested in hearing her speak. This panel was relaxed and chatty and they each appreciated the others works very much. They spoke of their writing habits, long days, short bouts of energy etc, very interesting.Huge coincidence, after I got home I talked to one of my best friends Judy, she lives in NJ and has worked with an agent and pulled Lori Roy's manuscript out of a slush pile and recommended it. Small world, I look forward to reading Bent Road. After the talk I chatted with Maribeth Whalen a bit more. She is a mom of 6 and was enjoying her weekend to herself. We talked about what we read, how we find books we love and more. We walked out onto the festival floor and I chatted with Eleanor Brown and Lori Roy a few minutes, Lori is also from Florida. I walked around a bit more and then sadly headed home....feeling a bit like Cinderella not wanting to leave the Ball. I love books and authors and those who support this art so very much, but my real word awaited.....
Next year I imagine the UCF Book Festival will be even bigger and better, I didn't touch on half the speakers who were there. I am hoping to be more involved, and attend and find myself chatting with other authors and finding new books to read adding to my ever growing list. The date next year is April 21, and I have 2 extra beds in my house with the girls in college.....come on down dear friends, and we'll have a blast!

OoooPs!!

2011-04-21T10:28:00.001-04:00

O and P are for OooPs, I didn't write yesterday. I have no real excuse, my day included picking up Caitie's OPulent prom dress, it's really lovely, red, strapless, satin, shiny....pictures to come after Saturday night.
I cooked an Ordinary dinner, Pasta with chicken and broccoli and some other goodies.
I've felt distracted this week. I haven't been able to focus on my reading, but today I'm going to shut out all noise and read.....I really want to.
Lent ends with Easter this weekend, and I'll be able to return to facebook, and I have to admit I have missed it. I think this break will help me balance my fb use, I sure hope so.
Have a good day!!

N is for no more softball and no more whiney parents

2011-04-19T22:59:00.000-04:00

Tonight was the last high softball game for Adrienne, we lost, last game of district play offs. I admit I'm sad because for the most part she had a wonderful 4 years playing. There was the sophomore year she wasn't the starting catcher, losing out to a wicked former coach and a player with much less talent. Sadly I have not seen one year without some drama, some from the players, and way too much from the parents. This season was no exception, one parent upset because her daughter is a batter only, not a defensive player on the field. The parent got upset when a runner was put in after the daughter got on base, a very common practice. Another parent stormed at the coach when his daughter didn't get to pitch and another girl did. My stars it was just so unreal, the behavior from the adults. Now there are grumblings of moving their players to another HS to play next year. Seriously!!!??
So an end of one era, but thankfully we now move on to College Softball!!

M is for Mom

2011-04-18T23:01:00.000-04:00

While my blog name lists mom last, I think at this place in my life it is one of the biggest roles I play. I wanted children very much in my life. I am the youngest of 4 children, and I became an Aunt at age 8, and I was an Aunt to 5 more children by the age of 30. When I married Kevin we worked oh so hard to have our babies and I wouldn't change a thing.
I think being a mom can be a rather thankless humbling job, I often feel alone with what I'm doing, and not because Kevin doesn't support me, because he is a great father. I just feel that loving and caring for my children is critical to who they will be as adults, and hey I do mess up from time to time..okay more than that.......but I'm trying to do it right.
Someday in the not so distant future, two of them will move out, leave for college, and they will come home some, but really they are leaving, and how we prepared them, helped them grow will show.
Okay, that was my M!!

L is for Literature

2011-04-16T18:41:00.000-04:00

Today I attended the UCF Book Festival. I had a fabulous time. I met several writers and heard great talks and have even more books I want to read!!
Now I'm off to chaperone Relay for Life, but I'll post all about the books and authors tomorrow.

J is for Journal and K is for Kissing.

2011-04-15T12:39:00.001-04:00

One thing I did as a young girl/woman was to write in a journal or diary almost daily. When I was 13 I wrote of which boy I liked and wanted to be my first kiss. Just so you know it was Keith Rogers, and our first real kiss was on the side of the Junior High one spring Saturday, I was in 7th grade. He was blonde and cute, but turned into a pot head in high school. That first kiss was different, not just a peck, but a kiss, the one where you learn how to tilt your head, how to open your mouth, and well you know the rest.
As I moved on to high school I wrote more in my journal, about my hopes and dreams, and my battles with my parents and the boys in my life. I kept kissing boys, many boys as I recall, a few more than average, I was what we called fast....but in a nice way, I wasn't the talk of the school or anything.
In college I wrote in my journal about new friends and adventures, of kissing boys, and going to midnight showings of The Rocky Horror Picture Show. I kept in that journal the stories of Fraternity Parties and football games, and nights spent with no dates and no kissing, and making friends with women I thought would never leave my life, but alas I've been a lax friend and kept in touch with no one.
I've started new journals time and time again over the years, but since leaving college and moving on to working, then marriage and parenthood I've never kept it up too well. I did find an entry I wrote in one when I started dating my husband Kevin....I wasn't too sure of him then, should have been a sure sign he would be the love of my life. Prior to him I'd been kissing and falling fast for a few too many men, but with Kevin it moved slow, I liked him first as a friend and the dating came along and then the kissing and the passion....slow and steady does win the race.
Now I think in many ways I journal right here on this blog, it's been where I've kept up for almost 3 years now. I've shared many things, and it's certainly been more consistent than any of my other adult journals.

What about you.....do you journal? I hope you kiss, I hope you give and receive them, from your someone special, your children, your family, and all who love you! Imagine me blowing you a kiss right now!!! Now that's something to write home about!!

Oh speaking of....I'm still writing my 52 letters. I'm writing this week's today....and hoping to stay caught up!

I just realized after I posted this............This is post 400, just 3 months shy of 3 years and I hit 400. whoohoo!!

H + I = Hi all of you!!!

2011-04-14T11:02:00.000-04:00

Happy Thursday World...
We've had some drama in our house this week. Caitie has a friend that has removed herself from their lunch group/table. Her mom is overly involved in her life/friendships, and she actually called one of the boys in the group and expressed that she was disappointed he didn't defend her more. She is also my friend but stated that calling me or Caitie would just make things worse. I admit, Caitie was already upset that this friend had emailed some teachers to remind them to vote to nominate Prom court...really?? Two teachers told their students this was fact, Caitie was floored....it's so inappropriate to campaign to be nominated...ick. I feel caught in the middle, knowing I will see this girl and her mom on Saturday. When Caitie called her yesterday the girl accused Caitie of never being a good friend, and of gossiping, and she eventually hung up on her. What a HS drama mess. I just keep saying, 5 more weeks, 5 more weeks. I'm a little sad about this too, friends that just can't talk and work things out.

Drama #2 involves Nick. I'm torn on this one, I haven't told anyone outside our little family of 5 and I'm torn between acceptance it's no big deal, I'm humiliated, it's wrong the list could go on.
The back story is, go back to next week when Nick dressed for Color Wars day and we painted his face with some green and back. 7th graders were to wear Green.

Nick got to school and found out that it's against the rules to paint your face. In classic 13 year old judgment instead of calling me or rushing to try to wash it off he was not noticed in his first block and he tried to hide from a Dean in the hall way only to be snagged. He was told to wash it off. It didn't all come off and he was on his way to class and the Dean saw him again and gave him a before school Detention for this week Tuesday. Nick chose to lie to us and said his teacher told him to wash it off and he was on his way to do that when he was caught. What makes anyone lie...it's not really like he could be in more trouble for honesty, I encouraged the face paint before I knew it was illegal.
I emailed the Dean, he told me Nick was telling a lie, but he stuck to his story. I finally just accepted the detention and signed it and it stated if it is missed it would result in a 1 day suspension.
Fast forward to Tuesday this week................guess what we forgot?
I received an email from the Dean, and I felt it was a harsh punishment, because what are we teaching, what is the real infraction? Face paint? The paint not coming off? My anger was all about the lie, which I continued to defend in writing the teacher, and was embarrassed to lean he had said nothing to Nick and must not have noticed the face paint. I emailed the Dean, and had Kevin call the dean, he is not emotional like I am.
The rules are black and white, a missed deans' detention results in a one day suspension. To add to the punishment, a suspension in the 4th quarter results in not being permitted to attend the Spring Dance. I don't agree with the suspension, I think it's extreme for this infraction. I'm having a really hard time with this, parenting teens sucks!!
Nick is home today, I was able to get assignments from two of his teachers, another one has her lessons online and the last class is PE. He got up at his regular time, ate breakfast and picked up his room. He mowed the back yard. He is now reading for his English class.
For lying to us, he has no phone or computer for a week, and will not be going out socially this weekend.

Thoughts? Suggestions? Hugs?

G is for Good Grief!!

2011-04-13T15:31:00.000-04:00

I'm still busy with my abc's but I feel like I'm spinning these days, so much going on!!! I'm drinking in today because it's a day and night I don't have plans/commitments. I actually could go tonight and look at the venue for Project Graduation, a bowling alley, entertainment center. Yes I've been there before but tonight's look is to plan out locations for things for that night, food, games, etc. Not sure I'll make it.
I have been reading and house cleaning today, some one has to do it...ugh. I've laid out the cleaning supplies in the girls' bathroom do you think they will get the hint? I kind of doubt it too..........GRIMY is a word that describes that room!
We are grilling for dinner, so happy to not heat up the oven or the house....it's almost like summer is here in FL with the temps we've had....April is usually a mild month....not so much this one.
This Friday night is Grad Bash at Universal Studios Orlando. For years it was an event at Disney World, Grad Nite, my husband even went in 85 when he graduated HS. Anyway, it's from 6pm to 2am, and it's only high school seniors, different area HS's go different nights. There are bands, like real stars out there, and the rides, and other special things for them. They go on buses, all go together, all come home together, good clean fun!!
I'm going to GO now and read................I'm tired from vacuuming the house....whew!! Have a Great day. I'm sorry this post was sort of Goofy!

F is for FCAT

2011-04-12T10:22:00.000-04:00

FCAT is Florida Comprehensive Assessment Test. These are the annual spring ritual tests that strike fear and terror into children in grades 3-10, and possibly longer if you don't pass. Yes our great state formerly governed by Jeb Bush when his older brother was the governor of Texas decided to link grade promotion, graduation, money and pay to these asinine tests. ARGH!!!
Oh the supporters will say they do not teach to the test, it is just a way to measure how the students are learning and if the teachers are effective.
BULL SHIT!!! Yes I said it!!
The teachers in the lower grades must teach to the test because the testing isn't simple, questions are all convoluted to measure reading comprehension, something that should not be tricky, but just plain old forthright and simple.
The math has now moved to computers in the high schools, to be trickling down to middle and then grade school technology soon.
I am thankful my girls passed these tests and were done in 10th grade. This is Nick's first year, and he is a good student and a good test taker, but even he was worried because the schools hype it up so much. Totally a waste of school time..........it boggles the mind. Nick had 70 minutes to read and complete questions yesterday. He was done in 30 min, and napped for the remaining time. You are not permitted a book to read etc, heaven forbid they may think you are cheating......honestly?
So ok, off my soap box...............So F is for FCAT, and I think it's pretty.........F'd up.......ha ha!!!
Sorry, if I offended anyone!!

E is for Exciting, emotional, ending

2011-04-11T23:18:00.000-04:00

Tonight was Senior Night for the softball team. I didn't cry....amazing!! Adrienne wrote the most beautiful thank you to us, and we are so proud of her.
Our last home game....wow, how can this be. Her college coach came to watch, and it was so nice to have her there.
The next 5 weeks are going to be filled with other endings, exciting and emotional, and yet so lovely.
All else is well...........and I know my A B C's!!

D is for Daydreaming

2011-04-09T11:11:00.000-04:00

I am a realist, I live in the real world, with my modest home, our imperfectly cleaned interior, our average landscaping, our flawed lives....honestly my life is damn good, but it's real, not a fairy tale, not perfect, but at times I catch myself thinking.............what if.............................yes daydreaming.

This could have been me at 6, I remember laying my head on my desk in school and just thinking......of books, boys, playing, having fun.
Sure some of those daydreams came true, and I feel now some of my daydreams now may be my reality soon.
I still daydream of having more time to relax, and read those books, and having fun. I now daydream of having less financial concerns and more disposable income. I let my mind drift to thoughts of returning to work and helping build that nest egg of retirement a bit more. I think of our home with no kids, no one asking me for money or a ride all the time. I dream of having adult productive children, who we will look forward to welcoming home for visits, and bringing me chubby cherub grand babies to spoil.
I daydream of vacations Kevin and I will take together, trips to see Fall leaves each Autumn is one goal.

So bringing me back to reality, I'm going to get off this computer, pick up the house and enjoy the sunshine with Adrienne, while we are off to see a college softball game.

What's in your daydreams?

C is for Chords

2011-04-08T22:59:00.000-04:00

How many Honors chords did you graduate with? Me, I think one....or zero, I was in some choral honors group, but honestly I'd have to search for that graduation picture, you know the one where I'm shaking the hand of the principal or other person handing me my diploma. I can still remember the cute shoes I was wearing....can you see where my priorities were?

Today the girls came home with announcements that they have achieved the GPA required by the state of Florida to receive an honors diploma and so have a special tassel and Honors Chords. They have already received National Honor Society Chords, and also earned Art Honor Society chords. Caitie will also be receiving Math Honor Society chords....whew.
Guess what? We get to pay for all those special honor chords too!!!
Here I am with the girls at the NHS induction and special recognition for Seniors.

Caitie will be graduating Magna Cum Laude.

I'm participating in A-Z Blogging, click on the button to the right to see more!!!
Enough shameless bragging for one day!!

B is for Bargains

2011-04-07T10:57:00.001-04:00

Bargains, because that is my M O these days. About every 10 days or so I have to fill up my car with gas, and it's killing me, I mean really the increase in gasoline cuts into my spending money, and lord knows I hate to spend our money on a necessity that benefits foreign oil countries and bit oil companies. How to battle that....bargains, and looking for them.
As I wrote a couple of weeks ago, I'm loving couponing for better deals at the grocery. It's not perfect yet, but I am improving.
I needed new rugs for my bathroom and I've been searching for just what I wanted at the right price....voila, finally I hit pay dirt at HomeGoods(love that store) and I also got a new shower curtain and a cotton blanket too. All at a really reasonable price and they look great!! I proudly held out until I found what I wanted, and at a price I liked.
Caitie's prom dress was even $30 under the budget I set for her, and the alterations were less because instead of hemming the dress the seamstress suggested some tacks in the ruching on the dress, saved us $25 YAY!!
So while I do not plan to come a non-consumer, and am looking for ways to save, for bargains, and ways to use less paper. We can't give up toilet paper, but do you ever think of how many papertowels you use? We use too many paper plates too. I'm guessing it would be better to use plates and wash them.
I've been using old wash clothes with a cleaner to clean my bathroom and in the kitchen, easy to just toss in the laundry.,
So is these weird economic times, where do you find bargains?

UPDATE: I spent $115, and I SAVED $83, those saving reflect coupons($24) and buy one get one free deals, sale items etc. I was so very pleased with my efforts, and we have tons of food to eat...good stuff too!!

Late to the party but.............A is for........................

2011-04-06T23:04:00.000-04:00

I'm taking the lead from my friend Beth at Walk a Mile and playing a new blog game....A to Z challenge. You can click on the link and check it out. Mine will be a modified version, since today is already April 6.

A is for Airplane.....................like the one I flew in last week!!

What a fantastic trip Adrienne and I had in Kingsville TX at their campus of TX A&M, or TAMUK, as it's known. Long flights and changing planes, but eventually we were there and we really enjoyed our visit to the school.
What a lovely smallish campus they have, small compared to so many mega universities that seem to be in Florida. The softball coach showed us a very good time. We ate at local restaurants, and you can see and feel the support and pride for the school in each of them. Great Mexican breakfast with real fresh tortillas. The asst coach showed us dorms, dining halls, class rooms, we met a professor that would be Adrienne's adviser. We met the softball team and watched them practice, we attended a baseball game. We saw the new student fitness facility,so nice. We met athletic trainers, other coaches and in the end they made a very nice offer for Adrienne to attend TAMUK next year. Their offer covers about 66% of her costs, but with out of state tuition it still leaves a big chunk for us.
We came home with unanswered question, unsure of which path was best. We asked Adrienne to make a list of pros and cons of each school.
Last Saturday we went to a Seminole State home softball game, and it seemed to clear up her choices.
Sunday afternoon she told us she is going to stay in state, she feels the team is more cohesive, she thinks she can learn more from the coach here in FL, and she knows there will be the right school for her last two years to play and attend college.
I am so very proud of her....I mean really, she did this on her own. When she called the TX coach she understood, but said she plans to keep an eye on her and perhaps they will still work together one day.
So I guess A is for Adrienne, and Airplanes!

Adventures in Scholarships Land

2011-03-28T13:02:00.000-04:00

This evening Adrienne and I fly out to TX to visit Texas A&M Kingsville. I posted about this school a couple of weeks ago.

It's a short 2 day trip, but enough time to visit the college, tour and get a feel for the school, coach, and team. I have a million mixed emotions, as I'm sure Adrienne does too.

I'm taking the lap top, and we'll be home late Wednesday night...I'll update as I can. Wish us luck....and to getting all our questions answered.

Book Review: Not Becoming My Mother: and Other Things She Taught Me Along the Way

2011-03-24T14:50:00.000-04:00

I started this book while sitting in B&N, drawn to the cover and title, only it was this book in paperback, with a different title and cover, I finally borrowed this copy from the library and finished it up today.
Ruth Reichl writes about her mother, and the way she grew up, a young woman in the 1920's, a woman who wanted career and purpose, but was saddled with responsibilities of being a housewife and mother. Ruth discovers who her mom really was through her letters and notes that she left behind.

This book made me wonder about my own mom, now 83 years old and while she was always a great cook, housekeeper and mom I wonder if she had other goals, other plans for her life. Much like Ruth's mother our relationship is difficult. I love her, I talk to her often, but I still sometimes feel like I'm 17 and so not doing things she would like me to do.

I was torn between a 3 and 4 rating, at only 112 pages it's a nice short little read, and is a window into what women a generation or two before us really encountered growing up.(less)

Wordless Wednesday

2011-03-23T11:07:00.002-04:00

Thrifty

2011-03-19T21:15:00.000-04:00

Are you Thrifty? Do you look for opportunities to save money?

Do you clip coupons?
My answer to all of these would have been, not very much. Ok ok, I clip coupons, and if it's something we use I will use a coupon. I've been to garage sales and thrift stores, sometimes they freak me out with the crap people give away and they re-sell, but I've been trying to see it in a different light.
Last Sunday I went to a class to learn about couponing and saving more money. It was very interesting, and I learned a lot. It will take a while to kind of build up coupons, to follow along with the sales at the grocery, and maybe using Target, Walgreens and CVS as a source for deals. I look for sales, store coupons, manufacturers coupons etc. This week was fun, I found some good deals, and I organized the coupons I already had, but I can see I'll have to do more....now it's kind of a challenge.
For fun Kevin and I went to 3 Thrift stores today, I bought one item....a 75 cent book!!! We were kind of looking for things Adrienne might use in her college apartment. We shall see, she will have four roomates and over the summer they can compare what each might have, furniture, kitchen goods etc.
Do think we will suddenly start being frugal about all things and quit buying new........heck no! I do think we can save some money on our food and personal needs and cleaning and paper products.
I'll keep you posted!!

Book Reviews: Catching up

2011-03-17T14:19:00.001-04:00

I've read three books in the past month and I need to catch up on these reviews.

This was my second read from Karen McQuestion, and I actually won a Kindle copy from her blog. The main character is Lola, and twenty something, nearing 30, single woman who has inherited this great house from her Aunt. She has two great friends and a quirky sister. Lola's home is in a great neighborhood, but the neighbors are a bit too friendly for Lola, she feels smothered and watched. When her best friend Hubert gets kicked out of his girlfriends' apartment, Lola takes him in, but it almost appears the neighbors love him more. Hubert decides he will help Lola by cleaning out the old house, which Lola has attempted at all in the four months she's lived there. Lola's sister Mindy is getting married and insisting on all kinds of help and love from her big sister, all the while teasing her of the fact that the wedding date is on Lola's 30th birthday.
A wild idea hatched by Lola's friend Piper turns into so many twists and turns, and the mystery man from across the street adds much to this story.
I've given this book a rating of 2 out of 5 stars, I liked it, but it was not as enjoyable as A Scattered Life.

I finally got to read Room by Emma Donoghue. Honestly I listened to it. I accepted two free audio books from Audibles.com, and this was one of my choices. There is currently a free 30 day trial offer from Audible that includes 2 free downloads. There are many choices for memberships, but I've already canceled because I really am not a person who wants to pay for my audio books. I am much more likely to borrow it from the library.
I was so excited to read this book, it has received excellent reviews from all of my reading friends and it did not disappoint.
If you aren't familiar with the plot, Room is told almost completely by 5 year old Jack, who lives in an 11x11 room with his "Ma". There is dialogue between them but again, most is told in this very innocent 5 year old voice. We learn Jack and his Ma are living as captives in a shed, held by a man they refer to as "old Nick". The woman was abducted 7 years ago, and has been repeatedly raped by her captor. Jack refers to objects in a personal first person nature, as in "Room, Rug, Table, Wardrobe".
I am amazed at how drawn I was to this story, I couldn't wait to get back to listening to it. It had a good flow to it, I imagine it would be very easy to read.
There were things that happen that seem less than plausible, but I think the real point of the book is looking at the impact of this captive life on a young boy, and how the change of being "outside" would appear to him.
I gave this book a 4 out of 5 stars, and I highly recommend it to everyone.

This is the newest from Jodi Picoult who seems to be able to rip storylines from the headlines and do such wonderful character development it just keeps drawing readers in.
This is the story of Zoe and Max, married for 9 years, desperately trying to have a child. They have done several attempts at IVF, and at last Zoe is pregnant and at 28 weeks of her pregnancy. Tragically the child she has longed for his still born and her marriage to Max is torn apart from their differences on trying to have a child. Zoe is a music therapist and she works even harder after her separation and eventual divorce. Max goes back to being an unreliable business owner of a lawn care service, he would rather be surfing or drinking. He lives with his brother and sister and law and when he hits rock bottom, he turns to their Evangelical Pastor and is "born again".
Zoe becomes close friends with a school counselor, Vanessa, who hires here to work with a severely depressed student, Lucy. As their time together grows, Zoe falls in love with Vanessa, who has been living as an open lesbian since college. It surprises Zoe, but she is so happy she knows it is right.
The conflict in this book arises when the three embryos that Zoe and Max have frozen come into question as Zoe wants to use them for Vanessa to carry and give them a child and Max is conflicted over his newly moral outrage of her deviant lifestyle. A lawsuit of gossipy magazine proportion is what ensues and the tactics of the over the top right wing lawyer make it so over the top.
The story is told from 3 alternating points of view, Zoe, Max and Vanessa. The reader learns the history of each character and what brought them to this place.
I can't tell you how well Picoult managed the intricacies of the story and each character. In several interviews she has shared that in the writing of this book her own son came out and admitted he is gay. This gave her even more opportunity to handle the topic in the most positive and open manner. Picoult really did interview and talk to persons from a right wing evangelical Christian group who is said to have recovered from her lesbian tendencies, it's heartbreaking to me to read this stuff, but I do know it exists.
Well written and heartfelt, I really enjoyed this book, I've rated it a 4 out of 5 stars and I would recommend it to all of my friends, even a few that may have a less than open outlook on gay and lesbian couples having children. I feel that this book is by far the best work of Jodi Picoult's since her book Nineteen Minutes.

The Choices We Have

2011-03-12T14:18:00.000-05:00

Adrienne and I will be heading to Kingsville Texas on March 28th. Kingsville is 35 miles east of Corpus Christi, a small town, home to Texas A&M Kingsville. This is the school that has shown interest in Adrienne, and we will go out and check it out. I admit, I have mixed emotions. One of my best friends asked me to list in order of most important my concerns.
1. Distance, it's over 1200 miles from our home, 400 miles south of even my TX family.
2. Cost, how much will they pay, how much we will pay etc.
3. How will Adrienne fit in? The small town is 70% Hispanic, the school 62% Hispanic, I just imagine culturally it will be different.
Those are my top 3, most worries fall into one of those somehow. I'm really trying to relax, and be open to any possible change.
I thought things were settled, that Adrienne would be going to school 45 miles away, that we would be able to see her play softball, visit often, and she could easily come home too. I like the coach that is close, she makes me feel that Adrienne will get the education and support she needs there.
So there ya go.....things may change, and they may not............but I have to let Adrienne explore it.

What I Learned this Week

2011-03-04T16:02:00.000-05:00

I learned that my son had a growth spurt this winter, his first real one, and he can't wear any of the shorts I bought him last Spring and Winter, he has 3 pair of nicer/plaid/ woven type shorts he can still wear, and at least 5 good pair he can't.....time to go shopping, and he really likes that!

I learned that you should never think things are just fine the way they are...........because an offer of some sort will come along and surprise you. I don't want to say much, but Adrienne was approached by an NCAA Div II school in Texas to play there. It looks like we may be going to visit during Spring Break. She can get out of her signing as long as she moves up a division. This is hugely flattering, but there are a million unanswered questions......all will be resolved.....so who knows.

I learned that I can manage on much less facebook time. I'm sort of weaning myself....not a stopping cold turkey method...ha ha. I joked with Sandy that I might need a 12 step program, and she offered to be my sponsor. What are friends for!?

It's a lovely Friday for me....and I can't wait to enjoy the weekend...........wishing the same for you!!